God Is Not a Fact But Fiction

An enlightening package is being put together for the serious readers, who stand by poised for a solid meal of sharp, sound illustrative that just slices through religious hypocrisy. There are millions of people walking around in nebulous religious confusion, just as I was for about fifty years. Yes, I am very fortunate to have had the opportunity to realize something was indeed wrong in the world, and clearly the object of the problem is unsuspectingly the holiest entity on planet earth; the Church.

At this stage in human history, many are flourishing in economic effluence, science and other esoteric fields. However religion is ravaging the lives of humanity around the world. It is very ironical in nature, because it was only since the Romans designed the after Christ calendar system, consisting of secularism and spirituality; that the notion of a spirit-God creating the cosmos, including mankind, became global acceptance. Astonishingly, the B.C history that the ancient people have passed unto our generation has nothing in it which supports a spirit in charge of the world and humanity, in any manner.

So fortunately, people were created as servants for the alien gods, that is what history says. They have left us here on our own to do as we please. Religion was invented along the way over long yawn of time. And then the Romansbrought in the after Christ religious calendar, with a fictional draft of the Genesis creation tale. They have since saturated generations of people with the falsehood, causing them to be raised up into the vacuous notion that a God wants to save them.

So if anything of the heavenly story about Jesus's birth is fact; why then God did not lead the wise men directly to where baby Jesus was, but instead to the palace of Herod, an adversary who wanted to kill the baby Jesus... why? That can not be the behavior of a knowledgeable and just God. There is serious conflicts in the Biblical narrative, becave it shows that Rome knew Jesus was a political threat to its illegal occupation of Israel. And they knew the Jews had expected a seed of King David, to arise and expel all invaders from their country. That was the reason why King Herod feigned, that he wanted to worship the baby. When the wise men did not return to Herod as they were instructed, he felt mocked. And at that time the situation resulted in the slaughter of all children under two years old. How then is the Bible telling us of God's great plan of wise men going forth to adore a Messiah who would save mankind from sin, and the guiding star adrift from its destination? When did the Roman regime change from being the killer of Jewish people, and destroyer of their temples, and for what reason they wanted to kill Jesus as an infant? These are serious questions to be answered.

One is encouraged to read keen and purposefully, just to be sure you find true reality, not accepting notions based on the wrong application of words. In church "believe" and "faith" is permanently applied incorrectly to manipulate the ninds of unsuspecting ones. People must use their common sense all of the time, and let knowledge creates the right realization. According to primordial history, no heaven is prepared for us in the skies. This work is about making accurate distinction in issues, and to prick cognition, so that no one gets bamboozled.

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Re-Create Who You Are

Re-create who you once were and say goodbye to what once was. If you live with uncertainty or have had troubles in your past, change those events. You have to re-create those events and turn them into lessons. Turn those lessons into positives events that will mold you into the person you want to become.

Take that lesson; be it trust, relationships, guilt, or whatever it is, and learn from it. Don't carry the situation with you because it will manifest itself in others and you will relive the same lessons.

If you were born into a healthy environment, you learn love, trust, and stability, among other things. When you are not born into that type of environment, you have to focus on the kind of life you want to have and you have to constantly reinforce in yourself that you are worthy of having it. You have to re-create yourself and the events in your life so that you can start paving the way to a better life.

Regardless if you are starting over after a divorce, or starting over after the loss of a loved one, or starting over for a better life, you can do it. Each and every step you take is an important one. Envision the life that you want for yourself. Start writing your game plan on how you plan on achieving it. Tell yourself daily that you are worth having it. Take those necessary steps to achieve it.

I don't want things to be like this anymore, I have had enough! Those are heavy words that scream of a desire for change. Now plan for those changes that you want to happen. Start by eliminating the things that you don't want in your life anymore. Say goodbye to the places, people and things that are not getting you where you want to be. Always keep a positive attitude wherever you go and in whatever you do.

Life is a journey. If it doesn't move you into a positive place, make that change. You have to be willing to walk away from the things that are not moving you into the direction you want to go and welcome the changes that bring you to a better place. Surround yourself with positive people going in the same direction you are. Only you can do it, no one else can. You have it within you to make those changes.

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Being With the One You Love Regardless of Your Age

How many times did you like a hot girl so much that you felt like going crazy if you don't have her - and eventually never ended up having her? Well, I guess the answer is clear here my friend and I do know how that feels. The fact is that if you cannot get a woman who is clearly out of your league, then it must be something very wrong in your approach. What is that? Do you have any idea about it? Well, that's a question for you to answer, as for me, I will personally teach you a few things on how to get a hot girlfriend and be happy with her.

Be yourself

First of all, you should always try and be yourself, even if it sounds hard or impossible. Girls don't like fake guys and in general, being fake is something that girls can sniff a mile away. Think about it: Would you date someone who is fake and doesn't even have the gut of being herself? I don't think so!

Don't hurry up and be sensitive

We guys always like to speed up things and get over with the cheesy moments, but even if you don't like them that much, they are necessary. I'm not saying you should get a band and sing her a song when she gets out of the mall, but do try and be sensitive. And by that I also mean that you cannot afford to make any lame sex jokes with her. If you make these jokes, you will just lure her away from you and end up lonely.

Communication is vital

Make sure you talk to her, but don't try to ask lame questions that bore her. Try and be original, show her that you are really interested into her, but don't overdo it so she may think you're obsessed with her or something. Be reasonable, sound interesting and do it all within the limits of your personality and honesty. Speak only as much as you think you can handle. It's really bad to get caught up in a lie later on. Your voice needs to make her feel safe when sharing certain things to you and that's why you should always reassure this way.

Dress nicely

The way you dress is also very important, because girls do really care about how their boyfriend looks. You don't want to look under dressed for instance when you go out with her, while she's wearing some really nice clothes. Some girls won't say this matters to them, but it does, believe me.

Smile and make her laugh

is one of the most important things for them when looking for a guy. Practically, every girl out there loves to have a guy to make her laugh when she's sad and keep her hopes high when she cannot manage on her own.

Compliment her whenever you can

Last but not least, be bold sometimes and always compliment her when you should. Women loves to be appreciated and have their efforts matter for someone and that is why you should consider this advice very much.

In the end, by combining all of these tips together, you can easily date any girl you like. And believe me, when you'll realize you can pull this off like a pro, you'll become even more confident in your chances of dating beautiful and smoking hot girls!

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Women: Loving Yourself Is About More Than Looks

Women loving themselves is very important. Although self-love is very important for a woman's happiness, some women have trouble in that area of life. Many women are not satisfied with their bodies, and they worry a great deal about how other people see them. Before women can be fully loved by others, they must first learn to love themselves.

What does it mean to love yourself? Some people may think that it means loving the way their bodies look. If this were the case, most women would not love themselves. Loving yourself is more than just loving the way you look. Women should look deeper inside themselves instead of focusing strictly on the outside of their bodies. It is what's on the inside that counts the most.

Women should take a moment to forget about all the things they hate about themselves. They should quit worrying about the extra pounds they may be carrying or the freckles they may have on their faces. Now, it's time to focus and take a deep breath. Women should take this time to think about all of the things that they love about themselves other than physical traits. Maybe they love the fact that they are kind to others.

Perhaps they have a few special qualities, such as being great with children or helping others. These are the things that matter the most. Once women discover what they love about themselves, they should put those things into action by participating in activities that make them happy, such as joining a choir or signing up to help the needy people in the community. Once women start enjoying life, others will notice that they are happier. When women are happy with themselves, it is likely that others will enjoy their company more.

Now that we have focused on the inside of the body, let's focus on the outside. Yes, earlier we talked about love being more than just what's on the outside, but now that we have learned the ways for women to love who they are on the inside, we need to address the outside as well.

This does not mean that women need to worry about all of their flaws, go on crash diets or get plastic surgery. This just means that women should do special things for themselves in order to make themselves feel better. Regular exercise can make a big difference in the lives of women. Not only will it make them healthier, but they will feel better both physically and emotionally. It is a great stress reliever as well. Yoga is a great exercise option that can help women become more in touch with themselves.

A little bit of pampering is great for women. Taking the extra time to fix their hair or makeup can make a real difference in the way they feel about themselves. Women do not have to wear makeup and fix their hair to be pretty or love themselves, but it can help to make them feel more confident. A nice massage from time to time is great as well. This can help women to relax and unwind at the end of a stressful day. Remember women, loving yourself is easier when you are not too stressed.

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A Simple Way To Energize Your Confidence When You're Learning A New Skill - Just Look Down

Learning a new skill can be exciting and rewarding. It can remind you of all the resources you already possess and your capacity to acquire more and more understanding. Often, when we learn new skills, we foster new relationships with others and acquire fresh perspectives on ourselves and the world.

Yet it isn't always plain sailing. A new skill is rarely acquired without a few setbacks and missteps along the way. Sometimes a new skill can seem daunting, even impenetrable. Sometimes it seems as if we get to a point in our new learning that we feel we cannot get past. Maybe we see others succeeding and feel that perhaps we lack some vital ingredient or some innate ability that means we'll never get there.

This is, of course, an illusion.

The truth is that we've been here before. We've had setbacks before. From the time we first opened our eyes in the world, actually. And the evidence for this is right in front of you.

Shoelaces.

Think about what's involved in tying your shoelaces. What now feels like a simple, effortless skill was something that once had you truly stumped. Maybe you remember being taught to tie your laces, maybe you can't, but most of us probably had a similar experience.

At first, we didn't need to tie our laces at all. We were so small that we'd just be sitting there, gazing at our feet, cozily wrapped up in socks. And, suddenly, one of those friendly giants would appear and slot our socked feet into those foot-shaped containers with the strings attached. And with a whirl of hands, our laces were tied, our feet ready for action.

Sometime later, we'd be invited to master the mysteries of the laces for ourselves. We watch as the skill is slowed down, explained, and repeated. And then we try for ourselves.

And at first it's probably a disaster. Our fingers fumble, and we probably feel frustrated. It seems as if we'll never master this superfast sorcery that we see occurring just below our knees.

So do we give up? Do you still seek out your parents' aid each morning? No. Of course not. You were patient. You persisted. You practiced and practiced until you could tie you laces with ease.

You succeeded.

It's tempting to think that the skills that you are attempting in your life these days are somehow different to tying your laces. But they're really not.

Think about how you really succeeded in learning to tie your laces. It wasn't all at once, was it? Maybe at first you simply practiced how to pick up a lace in each hand and orient your fingers into the right position. After that, maybe you just focused on making loops of the laces, and then passing one loop around the other.

You see the pattern that's emerging. Any new skill can be broken into parts. And, if necessary, those parts can be broken into smaller parts. And each part draws on particular generic abilities that we all share. Memory. Motor skills. Feedback.

The reason you succeeded at learning to tie your laces is the same reason that you can learn any new skill. You broke the skill down into parts that you can master one by one.

When you look at somebody effortlessly performing a skill that is new to you, sometimes your mind plays a clever trick on you to diminish your confidence. And the reason this trick is so clever is that there's a grain of truth in it.

You hear a little voice in your head whispering something like, 'I'll never be able to learn that!'

And there is a grain of truth in this. You may not be able to learn that skill in one step. Because nobody can.

When you hear a virtuoso on the piano, you are hearing a skill that began with clumsily learning scales. When you see a basketball player dart past three opponents and sink a basket, you are looking at someone who began learning when they hadn't the strength to throw the ball high enough to even reach the basket.

So if you ever become daunted when you explore a new skill, look down and remember that the secret to success is always right at your feet.

Ways You Can Flourish

1. Relax & Recognize You've Been Here Before

If you feel you're struggling with a new skill, the very first thing to do is simply relax. Take a few moments to mentally release what you're trying to do. Recall that this is not the first time you've learnt a new skill. Think of a time that you felt this way in the past. And then reassure yourself that any fleeting frustration will soon pass once you recognize the progress that you're making.

If you want to take this further, you can even guide yourself through a visualization of yourself learning to tie your laces, acquiring each skill step, one after the other.

2. Explore The Parts Of The Skill Rather Than The Whole

Take a few moments to step back and look at the constituent parts of the skill you are learning.

What is the first thing that is learned in this skill?

Have you already learned this?

What is the next part?

And so on. You can even list these so that it is easier to track your progress and become inspired as you cross them off, one by one.

You can also break the skill down into its generic aspects. So, for each part, what do you need to know (memory)? And what do you need to do (motor skills)?

3. Model A Mentor While Making The Skill Your Own

One of the simplest ways to recognize that the skill you're exploring is one that can be acquired over time is to identify a mentor. If someone already possesses the skill you desire - and, more importantly, has passed through the same learning steps you are - you can draw from their expertise and experience.

They are a real world example of the universal truth that you can acquire almost any new skill with the right mindset.

While a mentor can offer you invaluable advice and support, it's important to make sure that you are making this new skill - and the learning experience - your own. Although every skill requires some basic learnings, we each have our own unique approach to understanding.

You will find your new skill all the more rewarding if you can make the learning experience that precedes it unique to you.

Happy flourishing. Dan. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

Define Anxiety

To Define Anxiety can be difficult as there are many different forms. The dictionary definition is that Anxiety is "A state of uneasiness and apprehension". However it can depend on your circumstance as to why it is that you are feeling uneasy or nervous. For example if you are feeling as if you are constantly on edge, you could be considered to have "Generalized Anxiety Disorder", or if you have a concert coming up and you are nervous about playing you could be considered to have "performance anxiety". There can even be positive examples of anxiety, such as when you want to impress someone with maybe your cooking or another particular skill, you could be perceived as being "anxious to impress".

It is really down to the person to define anxiety and which it is that they have, and what is causing these feelings before they can look to ways to treat it.

Anxiety is in reality a very useful tool that your brain uses to keep you alive. For example if you didn't worry or become anxious about whether or not there was enough food to last the winter as a caveman/woman then you may have not survived, if you didn't worry about the way that Lion was looking at you earlier, then again you may not have lasted very long in the wild. It is an in-built system that helps keep us alive. Unfortunately our surroundings have changed drastically since the times of cavemen and women, but our brains have not. This means that we still use the same thought processes as then, but in a totally different environment.

Let's take that example of seeing a lion for example. Now when you were a caveman/woman, you would have seen the lion and your flight or fight response would kick in. This would help you to either run away as fast as possible, or it would help you to stand and defend yourself. Typical feelings you would associate with this could include; body temperature increase, chest tightness, dizziness, racing heart, sweating, do any of these sound familiar? they are the exact same feelings you get when you leave Wal-Mart and think that your car has been stolen, or when you are in a lift full of people and it stops momentarily. Your body doesn't know the difference between these events and so it treats them all the same. It's just trying to protect you.

Now that we have had a look at how some people Define Anxiety, let's see what can be done about it.

There are a few ways in which your anxiety can be dealt with, one of which is medication. Certain drugs are available to decrease your feelings of anxiety and put you more at ease. These are known as Beta Blockers, they are a fairly strong form of medication, and once a dose has started, you cannot just stop taking them so ensure you speak thoroughly with your GP before taking these.

Another way of dealing with anxiety is relaxation techniques or meditation. Once you have managed to define your anxiety, you can start to work on positive mental images of yourself dealing in a particular situation which would have at one time made you feel anxious. You can then begin to imagine yourself feeling more and more relaxed about this situation until you feel that you can deal with it more comfortably.

Decreasing caffeine can also be a good way of lessening anxiety as it is well known that coffee or other stimulants encourage your fight or flight response to kick in, and as we read earlier that can sometimes be a bad thing.

Group therapy can sometimes help if you have defined your anxiety as being caused by being around lots of people. Sometimes talking to people that have had the same experiences as you and are currently learning to deal with the problem can help you to overcome it yourself.

Speaking to your GP may be the best first option as they may well be able to help you Define Anxiety a little better and also steer you in the right direction for appropriate help.

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Professionalism in the Workplace

You have to be a professional in the workplace. It is one of the most important criteria used by superiors to evaluate your overall performance. Peers will also judge you according to the professional standards that you demonstrate in the workplace. In fact, professional ethics is very crucial in any corporate environment. It also plays an essential role in your career advancement. You can get hired if the prospective employer finds you to be professional. However, you must note that an employee can also be fired by being unprofessional in the place of work.

Professionalism is not only about wearing suitable corporate attire. You can become professional by practicing the following:

Maintain your mental stability. Keep that temper in check. The last thing you want to happen is to quarrel with your boss and co-workers. Arguments are expected to happen but stay away from getting into conflict with your contemporaries. Avoid the extremes. Do not be too boisterous or very quiet during meetings or company activities. Composure is the key in this environment.

It is important to communicate properly with everyone in the office. Be direct but courteous. Refrain from being too emotional when you interact with colleagues or managers. Besides, this can only reduce your interpersonal capabilities. Concentrate on the subject during discussions.

Stay smart! The clever employee knows what should be done and how to do it. Remember that working hard is not enough. Being smart means that you fulfill the expectations of your supervisors.

Respect works both ways. Have a high regard for the organization, your managers and co-employees and you can be sure to get the same degree of esteem from everyone.

Do not dress too informally or shabbily. Most companies implement a strict dress code so make sure to follow regulations.
It is not right to make unsavory comments or jokes that will hurt somebody's feelings. Never refer to personal appearances, ethnic groups, gender or religious practices.

Never lie or be insincere. Dishonesty will not only lead to termination. It can ruin your image forever. Once you get dismissed for cheating, you will find it difficult to look for another good job. Besides, regaining the trust of other people is hard to achieve.
Controlling your behavior is also necessary. There is nothing wrong in being confident but do not go beyond this. Arrogance has no place in any organization so better watch out for this attitude.

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How to Stop Feelings of Unworthiness From Sabotaging Your Dreams

I seek strength, not to be greater than another, but to fight my greatest enemy, the doubts within myself. ~P.D. Cast

Of all the elements that form the comfort zone, unworthiness is without question the most insidious.

Unworthiness is that shadowy deep-seated belief that creeps into our minds and tells us we are undeserving and not good enough, inadequate and fundamentally flawed. Unworthiness serves as a shield to insulate us from risk, chance and the unknown.

Some of us may already be aware of certain limiting and negative beliefs we have about ourselves. These we can learn to heal and change. The real problem goes deeper... it's the unconscious self-doubt and unworthy feelings we accept about ourselves.

The unworthiness mantra is "Don't try it, don't even think about it."

Without realizing it, we allow unworthiness to sabotage us in a hundred different ways, using endless justifications to keep from reaching for our dreams. For the sake of shielding ourselves from even the remote possibility of having to face our own fundamental inadequacy... we will do whatever it takes to just not think about it.

We repeatedly second guess our choices; falling into endless mental reruns picking apart what we could or should have done differently; over time finding it harder and harder to make definitive decisions that will enable us to move forward.
We avoid testing (or exposing) ourselves by allowing days, weeks and years to go by as we focus on the daily minutia of life and tell ourselves we'll get to the big important stuff as soon as we're 'caught up' or when the 'time is right.'
We use our responsibilities, especially to others, as shields to prevent ourselves from trying something new.

While there's a lot to be said for gratitude, there is a BIG difference between appreciating all the good things and people in your life and choosing to settle for less because you don't believe you deserve or are capable of more.

A few months ago I received a heartbreaking note from a reader who wanted to share with me why she had just unsubscribed from IGG. She went on to explain that while she enjoyed the articles and found them inspiring they also depressed her because she found herself focusing on all that she could never have or be in her life. "A lot of people have it worse than me, so I just need to stop dreaming and be grateful for what I have now."

How to Resolve Feelings of Unworthiness

Be willing to challenge beliefs about yourself: Begin by exploring the 'why' behind negative self talk. Make a positive statement about yourself such as I am a loving person or I deserve to achieve my dream of (fill in the blank). Then focus on any negative or contradictory thoughts that pop into your mind about your declaration. A personal journal is a great tool for this exercise. The more specific you can be with your statement, the greater the likelihood you'll be able to uncover those sneaky unworthy feelings.

One step at a time: Once you begin to identify unworthy thoughts or triggers you can start gently stretching the limits of your comfort zone. Be willing to try different strategies and don't be discouraged if you have to keep at it for awhile. These feelings of unworthiness have likely been with you for decades, so be kind to yourself, celebrate small victories, and be patiently persistent.

Let go of the past: For some reason, at some point in your life you came to the conclusion that you were lacking. Maybe you were bullied as a kid, or maybe you made a mistake... maybe it was a real whopper of a mistake and now you're stuck mentally rerunning the experience and what you could or should have done differently. It's time to let it go. The longer this has been going on the tougher it will be to clear it from your mind, but meaningful change always begins with a decision and in this case it's up to you to choose not to give those thoughts the energy they require to remain an active part of your life.

Risk change: The thing about unworthiness is over time it becomes a comfortable companion and it is awfully tempting to stay with what's known rather than risk the discomfort of change, rejection or even failure. Focus on your dreams and find a purpose that is important enough to motivate you to muster the strength and courage to step into the unknown and be free of what's holding you back.

Be willing to ask for help: Sometimes feelings of unworthiness stem from a major life change or a traumatic event. As valuable as self-directed personal growth exercises can be, it's important to understand that asking for help is not a weakness. Even the most courageous and successful people from time to time need a helping hand to move forward.

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Turn Fear Into Love

If you look around you, there are fear messages all around you. The news is saturated with fear messages and most conversations tend to revolve around some form of fear. With fear being in the main stream, it can be challenging and you can even get weary if you're trying to hold the light when no one else seems to be doing that around you.

I get it. I've seen angels since I was a child. I read people's energies and know things about them that they may never understand. I've brought bugs back to life when they were squooshed and it seemed there was no hope for them with my healing gift. I've fought for my right to just feel what I feel without being told I'm crazy or too sensitive and in the process of it all I have lost myself many times, fallen and scraped my knees more times than I can count, lived on the streets, I have been beaten and still I wondered why no one else felt the things that I did deep in my soul.

One word. FEAR.

Everyone is emotionally sensitive. Everyone has spiritual gifts. Everyone can tap into their inner wisdom, the light, God, Infinite Spirit and be in the flow of manifesting what they desire. Many have lost their way.

They've been told to be a certain way. Boys have been told not to cry, to tough it out and macho up. Girls have been told "Shhhh... that's not very lady like" and this still happens because I see it every day. Over the years people have been placed into categories, held up to expectations by others, told they were bad, given tools for war rather than tools for peace and love and now we live in a world where people are struggling to feel love, struggling to feel happy and struggling to get through tough times.

So let's bring in some light. You may identify with some part of this. I wanted to be transparent because there is a gift in my rich past experience and I know that. I would be selfish not to share it with you so I share it with the intention that it spark some light within you.

How to turn fear into love.

First of all you must be willing to buck the crowd at times. Not everyone is going to get the light right away. Some may go away and others may take a while to come around. It's not about them. It's about YOU claiming your right to light and to living your life from that place. That means getting up and sending light to the people in your home, at work, at the store and doing everything you do in the light.

Create a practice that will help you tune into more love and light in your heart. Meditate, journal, read spiritual books, join a spiritual group, hire a mentor who can hold the space for you and practice saturating yourself in lighter thought forms, lighter feelings, lighter perceptions. The heavier stuff will start to fall away.

Face the fears about being in the light and thinking you'll be rejected. When you release rejection and the fears around BEING YOU for all that you are then a cellular change begins to take place. Energetically you begin to shift into a different way of being. You'll naturally be in harmony with the world around you and resistance, challenges and obstacles will start to disappear.

You have a right to be the light. In fact it is your spiritual responsibility to everyone on this planet. Fear has only created pain, separation and war. Only love and light will remove fear from your life.

You owe it to yourself, your family and the rest of the world to finally drop your story, drop the fear, drop the pain, drop the drama and claim today that you will begin to write a new story that will fulfill you, heal you, nurture you, support you and in turn spread to those around you.

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How to Stop Fighting With What Is?

Often times we struggle with the outcome of a certain situation or are not happy with the results after our life time of immense efforts. The disappointment may be with our achievements, our expectations, our relationships or even our health!

Are you struggling to accept what has happened in your life?

Time and time again we resist with "What Is" and refuse to accept the bleak reality (that we face day in day out) and willfully hope that things are different.

Do you feel trapped in this vicious circle of struggle and non acceptance?

Frequently well-meaning friends, family encourage us to think positively. Are you tired of self-help gurus time and again saying, "Live Life aggressively." "Stop complaining and take charge of your life today!"

Lets be honest, the above phrase does not stir any positive emotions or motivates us optimistically. Instead we are deeply disappointed from the entire endeavour we have attempted in insistently fighting with the on-goings in our life; in other words we have forcefully denied reality.

Do you feel extremely exhausted but are afraid to give-up? You so badly want things as how it used to be, but do not know how to make that happen? You neither have the energy to continue nor have the faith to give-up.

Most times, when we are so afraid to stop and relax, and believe that if we stop trying, we will fail, that's when it's best to STOP forcing the issue. It's okay to Let Go.

When we allow ourselves to relax and let go... God's Grace catches us.

Letting go of the struggle, and relaxing in your well-being is the ONLY thing we can do. Life need not be a struggle.

Power of Acceptance

"The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance." - Nathaniel Branden

Acceptance is the first step that leads towards transformation or a slight change in the condition at hand. When we struggle with the moment we will struggle with the entire universe. Accepting whatever life brings to us, subdues all the obstacles down. Accepting this moment as it is enables us to activate our inner most strength to bring about transformation, which otherwise lays dormant. Acknowledging and not struggling takes the power away from the obstacles and shifts the power towards our state of being which in turn allows access to creative change. Acceptance loosens our focus or attention on the problem at hand, and turns our mind to sieve through to a creative solution. Whenever we shift our focus, we always attract a different condition i.e. an answer or a first tiny step towards an astounding solution. Acceptance helps to reduce stress and worry. The power of Acceptance renews our severed connection with GOD.

Power of Surrender

"Let go off the illusion of control. It will happen when it's ready. You need to believe and nurture your dream and believe in it and it will fulfil its destiny.

You must believe."

Surrender follows after Acceptance. If we try to surrender any event, circumstance, situation, difficult relationships, problematic conditions without accepting them for what there are or for their "Is ness", we will be creating a lot of resistance and conflict and will not be able to fully surrender. Instead after Accepting or affirming, we then surrender it to the higher source to find us a solution or an answer, we would be able to tap into the Universe's reservoir of many productive solutions. If we act upon our internal thoughts and images or visualisation, we generate a reaction. Surrendering without questioning, but total release or hold will let us to open doors to our most inner powers. Not controlling the results enables GOD to intervene and give us miraculous results. Witnessing any actions that we do without the need to judge, control or expect will net amazing results, which we sometimes call magic!

Power of Surrender is felt when we have total faith in God's well-being for us, our own faith in our abilities and total loyalty of our life's script or blue print.

It's vital to know how we are feeling, as negative emotions indicate or alerts us that we are in the process of manifesting something negative. If we stay in the negative thinking for a prolonged period we create a mind-set to think negatively all the time. Knowledge of why we create this negative pattern, creates awareness. This awareness empowers us to find creative solutions as easy as how light disperses darkness!

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10 Ways To Feel Great About Your Goals Today!

What kind of goals do you have right now? What would you like to happen in the important relationships in your life? What do you want to achieve in your career? What do you want to accomplish just for yourself?

What kind of goals do you have for the next week or so? How about the next few months? And the next few years?

Having life goals - big and small, in the near future and ones that last a lifetime - can feel amazing. Goals are a great way to bring direction to your life, to revitalize your motivation and to nurture your sense of purpose.

More than this, defining your goals can be an amazing way of nourishing relationships with others.

When you talk about your goals with someone you trust and care about - and they share theirs in turn - you can build deep levels of empathy and connection.

And, of course, some of the most rewarding goals we achieve in life are those that we accomplish together with loved ones - sustaining a compassionate relationship, nurturing a fun, loving home, bringing a new life into the world.

Yet just as our life goals can give us the opportunity for great happiness and success, they can sometimes feel a little daunting. After all, the higher you set your goals, the more challenging they tend to be.

So how do you sustain a great positive attitude towards the goals you have set for yourself? How do you ensure that you rebound from any setbacks with your motivation revitalized?

Read on to find out more.

The tips in this article can help you feel great about your goals. See how much more positive you can feel about what you'll accomplish in your life when you explore this new approach to your life goals.

Think of some of your life goals now - any goal, big or small - and explore the steps below.

Ways You Can Flourish

1. Acknowledge Just How Great It Is That You Have Life Goals

It may sound obvious, but one of the easiest ways to re-energize your enthusiasm for your goals is to recognize that you have them in the first place. After all, it's sometimes easy to get used to the resources, skills and accomplishments we acquire through life. Each success can blend into the natural landscape of our lives, unless we take a moment now and again to remind ourselves what we have achieved.

And creating your own life goals to work towards is a success in itself - you've given yourself direction, motivation and purpose.

So give yourself a few moments to acknowledge that simply generating your own life goals is a great achievement in itself.

2. Focus On Your Outcome

Our most rewarding goals are often our biggest, and therefore the ones that can sometimes feel far away. You can revitalize your motivation by releasing any thoughts of how you will get there, the steps you will take, the decisions you will make - and simply relax for a few moments to focus on what it will feel like when you have accomplished your goal.

How will you feel different compared to now?

What will achieving this goal do for your confidence?

How will achieving this goal affect your important relationships?

3. Focus On Progress By Focusing On The Closest Steps

For goals that sometimes feel daunting or far away, remind yourself of the simple formula for success - if you are making progress towards your goal, your goal is getting closer, and if your goal keeps getting closer, it's only a matter of time before you achieve it.

You can do this easily by focusing on two things - the step you have achieved, and the step you are about to achieve. Think about them now, and the steady pattern of successful progress that these steps represent.

4. Remind Yourself Who You Are Doing This For

Any goal will be easier to achieve when you are clear about why you are doing it. And a big part about being clear is knowing who this goal is for - you.

You have chosen this goal because it will make a tangible positive difference to your life. Of course, because of the important relationships in your life, successfully achieving your goal will also positively affect many other people, but it's important to acknowledge that success comes more easily when you are clear about why this is the right goal for you.

5. Celebrate The Uncertainty Of Having Your Own Life Goals

Like any aspect of life which has yet to occur, life goals come with inherent uncertainty. Are they the right goals? Will you achieve them? Will achieving them be all that you wished for? What will you aim for next?

Rather than attempting to disregard this sense of uncertainty, why not embrace it? After all, as fulfilling as it is to achieve your goals, success also represents a kind of finality.

Uncertainty is simply an opportunity for you to make choices, and in doing so express who you are. And isn't that kind of positive uncertainty just another name for excitement?

6. Share Your Goals

A shared journey can make any potential obstacle surmountable, and make you feel like you can rebound from any setback. So share your goals with the people in your life. You will forge stronger bonds of empathy as they share their goals, you will find your motivation revitalized and the people who know you best will be able to help you to acknowledge your core skills and resources, and even give you tips for the way forward.

7. Remind Yourself That You Can Change Your Goals If You Want To

We all define our goals based on what we know at the time. Yet the world and our own lives never stand still. Things evolve. And your goals can evolve too.

It's important not to confuse purpose and resolve for stubbornness. If you feel that a goal you have been working towards is genuinely no longer right for you, maybe it's time to take a fresh look at things. After all, you can be sure that your unconscious mind will become aware of this kind of unease very quickly, and make it increasingly difficult for you to achieve goals that you are not wholeheartedly committed to.

The ability to change your mind and refine your goals in response to a changing world and your evolving life is a sign of strength, not of weakness. Just as you can embrace the sense of uncertainty that having life goals brings, you can look on each new day as an opportunity to positively reassess your goals.

8. Give Yourself Plenty Of Life Goal 'Rest Stops'

If you were embarking on a thousand mile road trip, you wouldn't attempt to do this on your own in one go, would you?

So apply the same principle to your life goals - which, after all, are an important kind of journey in themselves. Schedule regular intervals when you will free yourself from all aspects of your life goals. This means that, during these times, you will not only not actively work on your goals, but you free yourself from even thinking about them.

The duration of your life goals 'rest stops' are up to you, but you can experiment with scheduling a particular hour off during the day, or any time after 9pm, as well as longer rest stops like a whole week every month or so.

Notice how revitalized you are when you return to focus on your life goals after one of your 'rest stops'. You'll see the opportunity for fresh perspectives and novel solutions that you may have missed before.

9. Remember That You are More Than Your Goals

Goals are important for a full and fulfilling life. Achieving your goals can be one of the most amazing feelings. Yet you will always be more than your goals. When you remember this, you will ensure that your happiness comes from more than your goals, too.

10. We All Encounter Setbacks But Only Some People Choose To Have Failures

A setback is simply a 'check in progress'. Something didn't work out the way you expected. Your outcome was not as positive as you'd hoped. The important thing to remember about setbacks is that everybody experiences them.

Yet what transforms a setback into a failure is how you respond. If people instantly respond - or react - to a setback with a sense of doom and gloom, a feeling that things are suddenly out of their control, then they are setting themselves on course for failure.

If you recognize a setback simply for what it is - that you have only been 'set back' a little, you will see opportunities to revise your approach and get back on the road to success.

As you come to master this distinction between setbacks and failures, you'll have mastered one of the most important skills for flourishing.

Happy flourishing. Dan. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

Forgiveness And The Art Of Letting Go

I once heard a quote from a client of mine that hit a deep chord within me. "Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." I believe it was Buddha that said this. It was at this point I began to realize the pain I was causing myself by holding onto past anger. For all I knew, these people didn't even know I was angry at them, and most likely didn't care. So what was the point, and how do I get rid of it? It took a very long time, and a lot of soul-searching but here is what I came up with.

Hanging onto any emotion begins to wear away at us and break us down physically, emotionally, and mentally. I see it in my practise every day. Anger is like a cancer eating away at us until we are but a shell of what we once were. This was happening to me and I was aware of it. It affected how I felt, my relationship, my interactions with others, and my work. I didn't recognize myself anymore, and knew I had to make a change. It was here that felt I had hit a brick wall, and then it came to me. Forgiveness.

Forgiveness is the key to letting go. Many believe that forgiveness means that they condone what has been done to them, this is not the case at all. Think of it this way, forgiveness is not done for someone else but for yourself. It means freedom, salvation. With this thought process in mind, it makes it a little easier to swallow. Forgiveness of ones self is hardest of all. We tell ourselves we should have known better, I could have helped, I would have done things differently. What we tend to forget is that we are all human and all make mistakes. Be kind to yourself, and allow yourself to make mistakes, for it is from these mistakes that growth happens.

Holding onto the past prevents us from growing and moving forward. It can create fear and worry when it comes to meeting new people or new situations. It also prevents us from achieving our goals like being promoted, or finding that perfect relationship, or even being present. So ask yourself, what is it you are holding on to, and what is needed to let it go?

I have been through so much in my life and my passion is helping others through the discoveries I have already made. I love writing about self-growth and improvement and strive for happiness and health in my life, my relationships, and work. For more articles like this one please visit my website: essenceofhealthmarkham.com. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

How to Deal With Toxic People

Most of us have been unlucky enough to have experienced people in our lives who can only be described as toxic.

Whether they are the emotional vampire who literally drains you with their perpetual dramas, or self-obsessed bore who asks you how you are and then proceeds to tell you all about their day before you've had a chance to reply. You know that they didn't actually want to know how you are but needed some reason to start talking about their favourite subject - themselves.

In fact if, god forbid, you should actually try to tell them, they would end the conversation before you've even got the words out.

Let's face it - these people are tiring and high maintenance to have around as well as being very distracting in the workplace when you are trying to meet a deadline or work on an important project.

The question is, what can you do about it when you are on the receiving end?

Here are a few tips that should help:

Be prepared - As soon as they start making a beeline towards you or you pick up the phone to find them on the other end, tell them it's great to hear from them but you are extremely busy/just about to go into a meeting/or go out.

Check whether it's work related or urgent so that you can make the decision to prioritise your time, and if it's not urgent tell them you'll call them back later.

A friendly but firm approach used consistently will soon let them know that you are taking control of your time and that they should respect it.

Working in an open plan office can be a nightmare as the office drama queen often seems to think that you really need to hear about her latest date when you are snowed under with work and that she can interrupt whatever you are doing at the drop of a hat.

If you have colleagues who insist on uninvited socialising, you might find it helpful to take pre-emptive action:

Try wearing headphones or simply having a sign on your desk advising that you are not to be disturbed unless urgent. Letting your colleagues know you are trying to get more disciplined around your time management so you can be more productive is a good idea as it lets them know what to expect and guards against them taking offence.

If you have someone like this in your private life you need to be just as disciplined about your boundaries.

If it's not a two-way friendship where you both listen to each other, offer support when appropriate and respect each others' boundaries and values then maybe it's time to re-evaluate it.

If a relationship doesn't add to your life in some way do you really need to continue it? Life is short, time is precious and hanging out with people who don't put much effort into your friendship or don't value or respect you is not the best use of the time you have.

Every so often it is not a bad idea to do a little relationship audit where you can review what is working or not working, whether it can be improved and maybe more importantly, whether you want to improve it.

As a coach I firmly believe we have a right to be happy and make our lives as enjoyable as we can and since humans are sociable beings, the importance of who we hang out with and its impact on our happiness cannot be overestimated.

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Why Job Seekers Should Consider Applying for Part-Time IT Jobs

IT students or workers who are interested in making an extra income should consider applying for part-time IT jobs. These jobs can provide workers with many benefits. Those who are interested in pursuing this kind of work can find vacancies through recruitment agencies.

Why Should People Apply for such IT Jobs?

There are many benefits that IT professionals can gain from working during their free time. Some of these benefits are listed below.

• Qualified and experienced workers can earn a healthy wage.

• Students and inexperienced job seekers can get valuable work experience.

• Those that have young families may be able to work from home.

• Workers will have more time to pursue other interests.

Which IT Jobs Can Be Performed on a Part-Time Basis?

Some IT roles require full-time workers. For example, a chief information officer is unlikely to work on such jobs. That being said, many technical roles can come in the form of part-time jobs. An example of this may be a web developer for a very small company.

How to Find Part-Time IT Work

The best way to find a job in IT is to keep an eye out for online and offline advertisements. Many recruitment agencies post their listings on online job sites. If a job seeker finds a role that he or she may be interested in applying for, they should contact the agency who created the listing.

If the agency believes that the applicant is a suitable candidate, they will ask them to come in for an interview. During this interview, the applicant will be asked questions regarding their education and employment history. The agency will also want to know why the applicant wants such a role over a full-time position. Many people apply for part-time jobs while they are seeking full-time work. This is not appealing to agencies as it means the employee will leave the job once they secure a full-time role.

People who are looking for part-time IT jobs should be aware that it may take some time to find work. In fact, it could take months to find the perfect role. This is because part-time work is highly coveted. The key to finding a job is to search for new vacancies on a daily basis. Job seekers can also forward their resume to recruitment agencies. Most agencies will keep the resume on file. They will then contact the job seeker if a suitable vacancy comes up.

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How To Develop Psychic Abilities Effectively On Your Own

Psychic abilities are practical and useful. Clairvoyance allows you to see what your eyes cannot normally see. Clairaudience lets you hear; telepathy lets you communicate and other psychic abilities let you perform other amazing tasks. Each of us is a psychic; it is just that not all of us know how to use our capabilities. If you wish to improve your life using these talents, then you have to know how to develop psychic abilities that lie dormant in you.

Learning

First and foremost, you need to learn more about psychic abilities. There are many books and guides you can read. The more knowledge you have about psychic abilities, the better your chances are on improving them.

Meditating

Meditating allows you to improve psychic abilities; moreover, it can also help you find peace and happiness. Various meditation methods can also be performed so you will become conscious of your mental states. You will also know how to distinguish psychic intuition from your everyday normal thoughts.

Praying

Prayer is necessary for asking guidance or divine intervention for your goal to develop your psychic skills. Pray with the language of your heart and pray earnestly. Repeating the same prayers each night is not what you should do, but prayers that will express what your mind and heart really contains.

Affirming

Use affirmations everyday so that your mind can be programmed to bring out the best outcomes. Affirmations are positive statements or suggestions that your subconscious mind can accept as true. Affirm to yourself that you have great powers to develop and that you are advancing well day after day.

Performing Rituals

Rituals are basically actions that you perform, which will have a corresponding effect on your inner plane. Rituals do not have to be as grave as what you see is done by wizards and witches. They could be just little things like praying while the hands are clasped together or candle lighting. No matter what ritual you perform, keep in mind that its core is to help you improve in your skills development.

Using Talisman

A talisman is an object held sacred for possessing some psychic charges. Any jewelry or stone can be used as talisman. Crystals and other semi-precious stones like amethyst and jade can also be used. To use your chosen talisman, you need to clean it first using saltwater so that any impurity may be removed. After the cleansing, transfer your desire into the object. Wear this talisman everyday in close contact with your skin.

Being With Other Psychics

When you are in the company of other people whose psychic abilities are developed, the more you will be inspired to be like them. Plus, they can also give you some helpful guidelines on how you can also improve your own skills. Their vibrations will help you get in tune with yours. You can attend seminars and workshops offered by other professional psychics. You can also search for online communities of people who share the same passion and interests about psychic abilities.

Believing

Another crucial component in developing your psychic powers is belief in yourself. If you are doubtful that you have powers, it would be impossible for you to prompt those powers to manifest. Even before you begin calling out for your abilities, you are already closing the doors where your powers will convene with you due to your certainty.

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The Blessedness of the Responsible Life

"Significance and fulfilment are not found amongst those who spectate, but [amongst] those who intentionally involve themselves in the process of existence."
~Philip Baker

Who are the happiest of people? Who are those who have the least amount of inner conflict? Who amongst humanity can truly say they have joy in abundance? Who may we say wants these aforementioned qualities of life?

The rest of the article is devoted to answering these questions as we gravitate toward the concept that when we live with intentionality of purpose we derive joy and vice versa.

THE COHERENCE OF JOY AND PURPOSE

When a person is at joy within themselves there is a near and dear purpose throbbing from within them. And when a purpose is found in life, which gives life all its meaning, there is great joy.

Joy and purpose go together.

This, of course, is a win/win reality for the person who has purpose, or who has joy. With one they have the other. And without one they are without the other. When we are without joy or purpose - meaning we lack purpose or joy - we lose our peace, and our inner conflict purges from within us affecting our external world. This is manifest by behavioural anxiety - the inner torment that ripples outward and affects our relationships. But when we have purpose and resulting joy (or the other way around) we have access to an inner satisfaction we call contentedness. When we are content, all the more do our relationships go better.

THE BENEFACTORS OF HAPPINESS, PEACE, AND THE ABUNDANT LIFE

I've been rhetorical in posing the four questions above. Those who are happiest in life have significant purpose. These are the fulfilled, for their intentionality drives them with meaning - especially if the meaning is philanthropic. These sorts of people are not easily burned-out. Their flame burns brightly within. Where there is a purpose we can fall in love with it is a joy to be alive.

The purposeful, even though they may contend with much conflict, actually have very little inner conflict. Their vision carries them forward beyond the angst resounding in their circumstances. They exist in peace and they provide peace for others.

If joy and purpose cohere, then so do peace and joy, for the person full of peace can see nothing but joy.

It's too easy to say everyone wants happiness, peace, and joy; the truth is most people apparently don't. They are too busy blaming external factors for their lack of happiness, peace, and joy. And so we get to the crux of the matter: the acceptance of responsibility.

The person who truly wants happiness, peace, and joy will soon discover that God has given humankind everything it needs to experience these. All we must do is accept our responsibilities by aligning ourselves with truths everywhere.

Achieving happiness, peace, and joy is easy. All we need to do is take responsibility for our lives and take less (or no) responsibility for others' lives. When we live the responsible life, we experience a very great personal power - the blessing of God.

Blessed are the responsible - those who maturely accept what they should do and then do it.

Steve Wickham is a Registered Safety Practitioner and he holds Degrees in Science, Divinity, and Counselling. Steve writes at: epitemnein-epitomic.blogspot.com.au and tribework.blogspot.com.au. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

No Children, No Hope

Right now this statement may resonate with some of you, and may seem completely foreign to others, but here it is: believe it or not, in this humble "writer's" opinion, we're all born geniuses. Genius-hood is native to us as humans; we just manage to "forget" this genius as we become socially conditioned.

Those humans popularly regarded as "Geniuses" have done nothing more than simply held onto their childish perspectives; their whole world being brightly coloured by their inquisitive minds and their ability to see opportunity where stumbling block presents itself.

Some of the greatest minds on Earth offer some support of this statement.

Call to mind that classic image of Einstein poking his tongue out at the camera. Have you ever looked in his eyes, or have you only focussed solely on the tongue? Look deeply into his eyes, the spark of child-likeness shines out like an eight-week-old puppy first discovering dirty socks.

Another fine example was Mozart. Now, if you can get past the hideous laugh bestowed, rightly or wrongly, upon this prodigy in the movie "Amadeus" by the dude who played Cool's dad in Parenthood, there were truths ridden throughout this film - didn't it strike anyone that Mozart was perhaps a little, well, childish?

Child-likeness is akin to genius - with minds and hearts young enough to not be dictated to by structure. The very structure that generally leads people to becoming grumpy, stiff old codgers who keep complaining about, "The youth of today".

You are really as old as you feel. It's that simple.

The beauty about this is that it's not just confined to people; it's indicative of an entire concept - the concept of youth; that of being too fresh to be crushed by the weight of structure. This extends to younger companies making ideal partners in communications for example... especially ones in Alexandria who will be re-locating to Redfern early next year. And ones called Heard, coincidentally enough.

You see, we've all been around the advertising block a few times, and we all have stories about how long-established structure and stale culture ensures that creativity remains well and truly strangled, and things are never really going to change, because no one ever had the balls to TRULY shake things up.

Well, we're in the formative stage, where we're frequently calling upon our vast collective experience of all aspects of our jobs, learning from the things we felt didn't work, and incorporating the things that did. We're creating a new company, a new way of working with each new day, and the results are astounding. (*Insert scene of looking wistfully into the clouds, eyes with soft focus, with wind gently blowing hair and a single-note piano composition evoking thoughts of hope and joy).

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Success Or Failure: Do You Feel Like a Failure?

Do you feel like a failure?

Have you ever felt like you were not good enough no matter what you tried to do or how many times you tried to do it? Have you ever felt like no matter how much better you get at doing something, there's always someone else who's there to tell you that you could have done it better?

Please understand I am a firm believer in continually striving to do better. However, it is never a pleasant experience for me when someone else points out my faults regardless of how well-meaning their intentions can be.

Even as a child it was clear to me what failure looked like, and those who failed shamefully had to tolerate the heckling and laughter of others at their expense. This crude treatment was less than encouraging.

When I lost custody of my children, I kept to myself as much as possible. I didn't want to be reminded repeatedly of what a failure as a mother I'd become. The event caused me to think of myself as a failure, a feeling I bore from the judgment of others. It changed my life.

Strangely enough, I knew the critics were basing their opinion of me as a mother on the outcome of the custody battle rather than how I performed as a mother. I don't know what it is about us humans, but we seem to have to look for validation of ourselves from another human. Though, in reality that's just our perception.

When considering a supposed failure, have you ever wondered...

Did I make a positive difference in this scenario? Do I know what that difference is?

Did I somehow contribute to this failure?

What exactly IS the failure? What would success look like in this particular situation?

Is failure the beginning of success? Would I even recognize success without failure and if so, then do I need to have experienced failure in order to have success?

Am I really a failure, or am I a success because of my failure?

So, what is success? What does it mean to you? What does that word look like to you in your world? Can you become a failure without knowing what it is to be successful?

This is what I have come to learn:

First of all, failure is not a person! Failure is recognized as an unsuccessful act, non-performance, insufficiency, deterioration, or condition of something expected. Inadequately "doing" something does not automatically turn you into "becoming" something. After all, who were you moments BEFORE you made the attempt to do the thing that failed?

When going through the feelings of failure, why do you automatically seem to question who we are?

What is the truth? Do we really know? Or do we truly know yet allow others to talk us out of what we know?

You might wonder where I am going with this train of thought. I am leading up to all the negative self-talk, monkey-mind, voices in our head, chatter, or whatever we choose to call it that tells us something different than what we feel.

It makes me wonder if I didn't really know truth all along and didn't question it until people gave me a reason to do so. Have you ever done something you really wanted to do and then felt badly about it only because someone else told you that you were bad for doing it?

It's got to do with that word failure.

So, maybe failure is a necessary thing after all. And maybe if we recognize it as just another part of life we could talk about it in a more positive connotation, and keep it in a perspective of a behavioral trait rather than a label we should stick on ourselves or someone else.

My hope is for you to look at failure as a way to reach your full potential so that you can be all you were meant to be and reject any notion of using the word to identify a person, particularly YOU!

Mary's 20 years of experience in dealing with trauma dedicated her to become one of the leading experts in transforming pain to pleasure in women's lives. Mary is a loving mom and after the loss of custody of her own children, has created a company that stands as the voice for mothers who have lost custody of their children. Grab a copy of her free eBook, "8 Critical Steps to Transforming Your Life after Losing Custody!" at my website, marydirksen.com. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

What's in Your Pie Chart?

So school is about to start - and you might be thinking of getting things in order. September is always the time of year we get to evaluate where we've been so far this year and how we want to end our year. After the summer of letting some areas of your life get off track you may want to start paying attention again. You might want to start measuring things again. How about how you spend your time, energy and focus?

I have had several of my clients reviewing just that. What are your priorities? Is it work, meetings or volunteering more than you'd really like to? Don't get me wrong making contributions to community or organizations you belong to is a wonderful thing to do. But you need to ask yourself - is the time you are spending in these areas eroding or enhancing the balance in what you want to have in your life? Do you go to meetings rather than taking time for fitness, making healthy meals or closing your eyes for 10-20 minutes when you come home from work? If you aren't doing any of these latter things than you must learn to take things off your plate. Stop saying yes to everything and start saying yes to you 1st.

I have seen so many struggle with their health and weight simply because they are doing way too much. So that's why I am recommending a way to look at important categories in your life by creating a Pie Chart - a visible representation of where you spend most of your time and effort on a daily basis. Many are surprised, even shocked to discover that they may only eke out 2-5% for themselves. Could that be your story, too?

Here are 3 Simple Tips on Creating Your Pie Chart To Reflect What You Truly Want:

Tip #1 Get out of vagueness - Being vague about important things in your life can be a killer. There's no clarity or sense of direction living this way. If you do, you most likely don't have much of an idea as to where you are at all. This strategy (or lack of) can be compared to not writing down what you eat when you want to lose weight or keep your weight in check. You are not conscious of what is really happening. In order to become more aware and make necessary changes you must have some form of measurement. Remember you can't change what you don't measure. What do you spend your time, focus and energy on during your day?

Tip #2 Making choices - After you've identified what's in your Pie Chart - it's time to determine where you'd like to spend more time and focus and where you'd like to spend less. Perhaps you don't want to be in work mode 24/7. Or how about reducing some of your PTA activities.

Again, only if these activities are cutting into some of your own self caring personal time do you want to make different choices - modify a little. If you are not sleeping well, eating on the run (most of the time) or becoming more irritable with loved ones it's time to make some changes re-vamp your Pie Chart.

Tip #3 Have Fun - Yes, even determining what is important can be a fun, and certainly revealing assignment. You can have fun creating a new Pie Chart for Your Life. Suspend reality for a moment and think what could be possible in your future. Could you carve some time for date night with your spouse more often, have a massage 2x/mo or go to the theater to see a play every 3 months or so.

Plan for a trip to a place you've always wanted to go to. Whatever you choose know that it will take some time to integrate less of the "have-to's" and more of the "want to's" into your life. Have fun with this process.

(c) Monika Klein

Monika Klein, BS, CN. is an award winning clinical nutritionist and weight loss expert. Monika is the "Compassionate and Practical Nutrition and Lifestyle Coach." Her company, Coaching For Health, offers life transforming weight loss and wellness programs, classes and products throughout the world. To learn more about Monika's services and programs, visit coachingforhealth.com. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

Tips To Getting Your Life In Order

Personal development can do a lot for a person, one thing being to establish order from chaos in a life that seems to have gotten completely out of control. Many things can pull you in different directions and get your life off-track; it's all up to you to get it going in the right direction again, and the following tips will help you to do that.

List things that are not going right. If there are toxic people in your life, bad habits holding you back, or you've just been dealt a few hard blows from fate, write about them. Writing will help you put them in perspective and brainstorm solutions. Identify everything you are not pleased with, no matter how long your list gets.

Counteract every problem with a solution. What are you going to do about each of these things holding you back and causing you problems? Map out a plan to throw a counter-punch back at everything. Reorganize your time to compensate for the extra work ahead of you, and make a point of resolving issues; you will never get anywhere if you don't.

List your priorities. Aside from things weighing you down at the moment, what is most important to you in life? What are you hoping more than anything to achieve? This is your list of ideal goals and where you truly want your program of personal development to take you. The sky is the limit if you are prepared and if you believe you can do it.

Write out strategies toward achievement. Do you need extra courses in business to reach your goals? Maybe a life-coach who can talk you up and into the lifestyle you've always wanted? Whatever will facilitate your success, write it out like a simple "to-do" list and place it in a highly visible location.

Reward yourself along the way. After the first few accomplishments, you have a lot to be proud of. Getting a life back in order is no easy task, nor is sticking to your life's plan! Provide yourself with small rewards like a weekend spa trip or that entertainment system you've been wanting. If a budget is involved, give yourself the gift of "me time" or guilt-less enjoyment of something that serves no other purpose than rejuvenating and exhilarating you.

Rinse and repeat. Once you are on track with life's goals, you've got to set new ones. As you reach each one, think about the next accomplishment you should be reaching for, and set yourself up for success with it. Again, writing things down can give you a very good perspective and means of formulating a plan. If ever you find yourself losing control of life, quickly re-examine everything and fight to get it back!

When life is out of control, we just can't be happy or really accomplish much of anything outside of the basic eating and sleeping routine. Get your life back in order and take control over your destiny; the longer you put if off, the harder it will be!

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Being A Surprisingly Romantic Bachelor, Does It Really Matter?

Whether you're single or together with your sweetheart, what we'd be talking about today would be rather focused on helping guys like you make the most out of relationships. Though, life has a plethora of aspects to mention, it's always love that matters the most for it gives meaning out of everyone's lives - which is enough reason why learning to keep your girl hooked up to you is a must. So, if you are on the same boat here with the purpose of knowing how to make your girl happy, stay faithful and tend to give you what every man would want from his lady, you will need to take action for the stuff that are considered to be the fundamentals.

The first key to a successful relationship is to be a man of romance - full of surprises. There are guys who practice it during early parts of their relationships, but stop doing so in the long run. On another note, there are others who never really get the point of it and would rather not do anything at all, which slowly dries out their women out of boredom. Think about it; what's the point of dating a girl without even having the thoughtfulness that would make her filled up with joy? Metaphorically speaking, women are just as fragile as plants: keep them watered for vitality - keeping them lively - for their own survival.

Also, you don't really have to break the bank in surprising your beloved woman. Just remember to always be consistent with it. To help you with that, there's one thing that you need to bear in mind at all times: Make a weekly reminder within your e-mail account or with your handheld phone. Ever week should have at least one act of thoughtful romance for your girl and don't overdo. Otherwise, the feeling of surprise on her end won't be there anymore since it has become a routine. Just like using up skills in an RPG game, give some cool down time before you execute the next move. Another thing you should know is that you should not make an obvious pattern. For instance, don't always do it every Friday or any certain day every week - make things random and that will make her excited all the time.

Some wonderful ideas for romantic acts are actually the simplest ones. A good example would be to lead throughout a dark hall where there's actually a candle-light table setting on an end for you two to dine. Another one would be to slip a note inside her office desk before she gets to the office, telling her to look back where she can sight a bouquet of flowers by the window pane. It can be anything really and for a quick source of simply marvellous acts for true romanticism, you can do a Google search.

As soon as now, start making plans on how to surprise your girl. You only live once and so does your girl, which means you have to take advantage of every chance to make your girl the happiest she can ever be.

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Your Self-Concept and Subconscious

There are many people who do not understand themselves as well as what they are capable of doing and achieving. This is commonly referred to as self-concept. Self-conceptualization involves understanding as well as accepting oneself as well as ones abilities. This is a very important concept since it dictates the way your subconscious mind works at all time with aim of fulfilling your self-concept. This will in turn dictate whether or not you achieve all that you dream of as well as become the person you want to be.

It is very difficult to do something that does not go hand in hand with your self-concept. Trying this will always prove to be useless. If you cannot program your mind to achieving a certain status then as much as you try to achieve the same status you will never be able to make it. Instead you will end up sinking into the unknown. The most obvious example is a student who does not believe that he can score straight As. With such a mentality, however much such a student tries, he will never be able to score the As that he wishes so much to score. Challenging your self-concept is almost impossible hence it is important to try to change it instead of attempting to challenge it.

In the process of upgrading your own self-concept, automatically your subconscious mind will change your every aspect of thinking in order to fulfill that particular self-concept. It is therefore up to you to change your self-concept and see your subconscious adjust accordingly. It would be a mistake trying to change people by making their negative side known to them. You are better off trying to change that particular person by letting him know just how you want him to be. The same applies to self-concept and subconscious. For example it is better to tell a person that he is brilliant and the characters he portrays do not belong to a person with his capabilities. This person will automatically try to match the self-concept that you have formed in his mind. It is also important that you do not allow yourself or even others to call you names that in one way or the other suppress your abilities as well as strengths.

Such names will only end up pulling you down and suppressing your abilities to achieve big thing and the kind of status that you want to achieve. You instead need to stay around people who in a way believe in you and are always motivating as well as influencing you into doing positive things that you never used to like doing before. It is such people that will help you soar to greater heights in your life as well as make all the difference in your life.

Undermining your self-concept is the worst thing that you will ever do to yourself. This will lead you to the worst depths of life where you will be seen as a non-achiever not because of anyone else but yourself. You need to ensure that you use your self-concept to your advantage at all times for you to become the kind of person that you as well as the society want you to be.

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Protection Against Re-Traumatisation

One of the problems of the method in my writing - within the self-help and spiritual guidance that I offer - is it's often not a one-size-fits-all approach to improving our life prospects. Many times what I say may not fit with certain persons in their personal circumstances. For instance, sometimes I write for the traumatised and at other times I write for the person who hasn't any experience of the traumatic kind.

When I write articles like Connecting With Our Brokenness I take the approach I would in talking to someone who hasn't been traumatised. This is an article to help us connect with the normal sort of brokenness, and not the stark and deranged brokenness beyond a person's coping.

There are two factors of concern here: 1) a person's level of traumatisation, and 2) their capacity or incapacity to hold and contain the pain whilst working with it.

WHEN PROFESSIONAL HELP AND/OR CARING SUPPORT ARE NEEDED

For the person with any level of traumatisation, and especially where there is uncertainty of capacity to hold and contain the pain that lies in the past or present, there is a real need for skilful professional help and/or caring support in order to grapple with the issues.

One of the techniques that good professionals use in dealing with trauma is narrative therapy, around recognising the resilience and agency within an already traumatised client. This sort of therapy manages the information in such a way that the traumatic pieces of history are not unnecessarily dredged up. Instead, other elements of our stories are teased out in order to ensure the client - who is there for healing - navigates their own journey through the therapy. It goes at their pace. They are in charge. Narrative therapy is being increasingly used in the counselling of children, as well as for child problems in the adult.

Added to the need for good professional help is the need for the support and encouragement at home, within the Church, in the workplace; anywhere really where we can draw some solace in the comfort of others instead of having to do it all on our own.

Caring partners, family and friends are crucial in any healing process. The trouble is too many are invited toward 'healing' in circumstances that are not supportive enough, and re-traumatisation may occur making the whole process worse; instead of healing our scars, our scarring gets worse, and we run from the problem, sometimes never to return.

We, as individuals, should always ensure we retain control over our own therapeutic healing. If we entrust ourselves unwisely, we can be re-traumatised. Before we engage in 'healing' practices we should ensure there is a 'Handle-Me-with-Care' attitude toward us in those that are there to help us. Their skilled caring is what qualifies them to handle us.

Steve Wickham is a Registered Safety Practitioner and holds Degrees in Science, Divinity, and Counselling. Steve writes at: epitemnein-epitomic.blogspot.com.au and tribework.blogspot.com.au. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

Imperfect Sinner

'The integrity of the upright will guide them' (Proverbs 11:3)

Are you good at berating and generally beating yourself up? Or do you leave it to others to chastise and point out your failings? As a young woman I was very confident and I believe fairly infallible. It isn't that I was arrogant, just that my parenting instilled a healthy and positive self-esteem, and I didn't think I was particularly imperfect. I was aware from going to Sunday school and church that man was born in sin, and that we needed to be aware of our sinful nature. I learned about the seven deadly sins, which are lust, gluttony, greed, laziness, wrath, envy and pride, and was aware that I needed to avoid these things. Essentially however, I did not feel I needed to criticise my own behaviour or that I regularly needed to identify my faults and punish myself accordingly.

As I grew to adulthood and had differing emotional experiences, such as losing my first job or being ignored by some young man who I liked, I learned emotional pain and how to deal with rejection. One of the main reasons someone will blame themselves or believe they are at fault is if they are emotionally scarred. They may then beat themselves up in a variety of ways. For instance they may do something extreme like becoming a lesbian or a nun if the object of their affection does not reciprocate their affections. Fortunately I took a more balanced approach and instead of beating myself believed that it was his bad luck; and simply moved on to the many other young men who were expressing an interest in dating me.

Not everyone takes things on the chin in the same way, and some may look for reasons to chastise themselves or believe that they have done something for which they should be penalised or punished. Inevitably this is not the case and good thinking is the better way forward rather than finding fault with yourself. This is a healthy way of looking at things however our life experiences are such that the attitude of siblings and partners, often encourage us to believe the worst of ourselves. For example you're so lazy couldn't you have done that for me or pointing out what they think is some other deficiency in your character.

I remember quite vividly the first time that someone indicated that they thought I was pretentious and not a very genuine person. I was mildly shocked that I was presenting in this way and took a step back to re-check my personality. It is, I believe always good to listen to fault finders; if only so that you can refute their views. Fault finders come in all sizes, shapes and ages, and range from ordinary people through to prominent officials. Sometimes you can be so caught up in your own importance that you fail to recognise your own imperfections. Having assessed this implied deficiency in my character I am pleased to say that it was the observer's perception that was at fault.

A final thought is that we are all imperfect and may have several character traits which other people are less than pleased with. If that is in fact the case some religious insight might prove useful in providing a basis or foundation for understanding our imperfections. We ultimately have to gain some understanding of our own characters and often use our internal barometer to identify the right and wrong of a situation. Additionally we are socialised into knowing the expectations of society; and have an understanding that we would be penalised if we did something wrong. I believe it's better to roll with the punches rather than metaphorically giving ourselves a severe thrashing.

Veronica Williams: I was an educator for nearly 25 years and am a practising christian. If you wish to contact me I can be located at my e-mail address v.ambris12@mail.com I hope you enjoyed reading this short article. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

Top 5 Ways to Increase Your Staff's Productivity

Increasing business productivity is important in sustaining a profitable business. Encourage teamwork and collaboration among your staff by having a coaching and mentoring program. Interact with your staff more often and value their suggestions to make them feel appreciated. Read on to know more ways on increasing your employees' effectiveness.

Offer Training Programs to Employees

Offer enough training programs to both new and long-term employees. Develop a training program for new staff with specific goals. Visit the training frequently to ensure that new employees are learning important skills. Schedule regular refresher courses for your staff, and train them when implementing new procedures or software. Develop extensive training programs for staff at all levels, and do not allow your staff to engage in work activities until they complete the programs.

Create an Environment Conducive to Work

Create a peaceful work environment and maintain open communication to boost staff efficiency. Allow your staff to give suggestions when reorganizing procedures and updating office policy. Listen to their complaints and pay attention to the problems going on in the workplace. This lets your staff feel important in the success of the company. Offer rewards for suggestions that increase efficiency and save business costs. Allow your staff to have a flexible work schedule so they have time to handle personal matters.

Implement a system to help employees deal with office disagreements. Those who are not doing their job can decrease business productivity and affect the morale of others. Employee morale has a significant effect on company productivity. Listen to their complaints and pay attention to the problems going on in the workplace. Give your staff an option to report problems with co-workers. Take necessary action and reprimand employees with bad behaviour. This can decrease the dissatisfaction of hardworking employees, and raise business efficiency.

Reward Employees for Effectiveness

Reward your employees for increased productivity. Rewards do not need to involve salary increases to be effective. You can offer them a free lunch at a fine restaurant, a free concert ticket, or an employee of the month certificate. Promote competitions for the rewards between teams and employees.

Implement Flexible Schedules

Requiring your staff to stick to rigid schedule regardless of job function is not great for their morale and your company productivity. Having a flexible work schedule can build loyalty and encourage employees to accomplish more tasks.

Establish Business Mentoring and Coaching Programs

Corporate mentoring and coaching can boost your staff's retention. Employees who participate in these programs often develop skills that bring increased value to the organization. Make your employees more engaged and motivated by having programs that can boost your business's overall performance. These programs help you build and align the capabilities, processes, attitudes, and talent needed to implement your chosen strategy more effectively.

Any business must build their brands around networks and business partners. They form certain groups to help sustain and support each other. Strong connections can give important management advice to advance your financing, prices, terms, and condition from business suppliers. Connections are excellent sources for customer referrals and establishing a good reputation.

Start building your network today by visiting sites, like leadershiphq.com.au or by checking out business coaching Brisbane.

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