Even You Need to be Mothered

Is it possible to Mother yourself when Mom's not available or nearby? I say yes. I think the best thing your mother can do for you is to teach you how to mother and nurture yourself. But let's face it - it's a skill, a talent and a gift. Doing this kind of self care requires commitment like that of a mother. But as an adult it is the #1 thing you need to become adept at.

This Mother's Day while showering or being showered by attention think of how you can become more self reliant in the self nurturing arena.

Secrets to Get YOU Started on Your Nurturing Journey:

Secret #1 -Reflect: Do you have time to reflect and think things through or are you always harried, frazzled and stressed? Well if you spend most of your days in this anxiety prone state you will not be on the road to long term health.

Learning to slow down and say no to all the distractions which take you away from your true self - your true core - will re-generate and honor your beautiful nature and soul.

Sounds like foreign territory? You must learn to nurture yourself by creating time without pressure (one of my new mottos) and taking the time to give to yourself - even just a little.

Secret #2 - Journal: I love to write I find it a source of grounding, clarity and a place where my imagination can run free. I get to work things out on paper. It's a safe and uncrowded place for me to explore and be as honest as I possibly can with myself. I know you may not find this easy to do and may in fact run from the mere mention of sitting down to write out your deep and most private thoughts. You scream out "I have no time, someone might read it, and I'm not much of a writer." Start with small steps. Remember this is a place to get to know yourself better. To get you started you may want to pick up the classic "The Artist's Way" by Julia Cameron.

Secret #3 Allow Others to do for YOU: Alert, alert! You can not do it all by yourself! I mean you can but at what price? Do you want to constantly feel rundown while feeling virtuous about accomplishing a feat you had set out to do single handedly? Wouldn't you like to have a team helping you out all the way to the finish line? Did you know collaboration comes very naturally to women and is so much more rewarding. Women actually crave it. Better satisfy this craving that your sweet tooth. Your "team or helpers" will also feel special contributing. They will feel a part of something and have a real sense of belonging. Let them! Let go of any martyr or a saint tendencies. Come to terms with the fact that you are a mere mortal with needs and an ability to ask for help (always!).

Secret #4 Make yourself Important: But don't take yourself too seriously. Don't dismiss any thoughts or ideas you have. Value them all - they are a part of you. The worst thing you can do is attack, criticize or demean yourself in any way. You want to be supportive of yourself at all times just like a nurturing mother would be.

Secret #5 Take a Bath: Nothing like a warm, sudsy, comforting, candle-lit bath at the end of a day that says "I love me"! No I don't mean in a narcissistic way but in a loving, mothering, and accepting way.

The warmth of this simple yet soothing activity will go a long way. You will feel calmer, more relaxed and you will sleep better, too. Your calming brain chemicals, specifically Serotonin and Gaba, will be activated ensuring a deep and restful sleep.

Monika Klein, BS, CN. is an award winning clinical nutritionist and weight loss expert. Monika is the "Compassionate and Practical Nutrition and Lifestyle Coach." Her company, Coaching For Health, offers life transforming weight loss and wellness programs, classes and products throughout the world. To learn more about Monika's services and programs, visit coachingforhealth.com. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

God Is Not a Fact But Fiction

An enlightening package is being put together for the serious readers, who stand by poised for a solid meal of sharp, sound illustrative that just slices through religious hypocrisy. There are millions of people walking around in nebulous religious confusion, just as I was for about fifty years. Yes, I am very fortunate to have had the opportunity to realize something was indeed wrong in the world, and clearly the object of the problem is unsuspectingly the holiest entity on planet earth; the Church.

At this stage in human history, many are flourishing in economic effluence, science and other esoteric fields. However religion is ravaging the lives of humanity around the world. It is very ironical in nature, because it was only since the Romans designed the after Christ calendar system, consisting of secularism and spirituality; that the notion of a spirit-God creating the cosmos, including mankind, became global acceptance. Astonishingly, the B.C history that the ancient people have passed unto our generation has nothing in it which supports a spirit in charge of the world and humanity, in any manner.

So fortunately, people were created as servants for the alien gods, that is what history says. They have left us here on our own to do as we please. Religion was invented along the way over long yawn of time. And then the Romansbrought in the after Christ religious calendar, with a fictional draft of the Genesis creation tale. They have since saturated generations of people with the falsehood, causing them to be raised up into the vacuous notion that a God wants to save them.

So if anything of the heavenly story about Jesus's birth is fact; why then God did not lead the wise men directly to where baby Jesus was, but instead to the palace of Herod, an adversary who wanted to kill the baby Jesus... why? That can not be the behavior of a knowledgeable and just God. There is serious conflicts in the Biblical narrative, becave it shows that Rome knew Jesus was a political threat to its illegal occupation of Israel. And they knew the Jews had expected a seed of King David, to arise and expel all invaders from their country. That was the reason why King Herod feigned, that he wanted to worship the baby. When the wise men did not return to Herod as they were instructed, he felt mocked. And at that time the situation resulted in the slaughter of all children under two years old. How then is the Bible telling us of God's great plan of wise men going forth to adore a Messiah who would save mankind from sin, and the guiding star adrift from its destination? When did the Roman regime change from being the killer of Jewish people, and destroyer of their temples, and for what reason they wanted to kill Jesus as an infant? These are serious questions to be answered.

One is encouraged to read keen and purposefully, just to be sure you find true reality, not accepting notions based on the wrong application of words. In church "believe" and "faith" is permanently applied incorrectly to manipulate the ninds of unsuspecting ones. People must use their common sense all of the time, and let knowledge creates the right realization. According to primordial history, no heaven is prepared for us in the skies. This work is about making accurate distinction in issues, and to prick cognition, so that no one gets bamboozled.

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Being With the One You Love Regardless of Your Age

How many times did you like a hot girl so much that you felt like going crazy if you don't have her - and eventually never ended up having her? Well, I guess the answer is clear here my friend and I do know how that feels. The fact is that if you cannot get a woman who is clearly out of your league, then it must be something very wrong in your approach. What is that? Do you have any idea about it? Well, that's a question for you to answer, as for me, I will personally teach you a few things on how to get a hot girlfriend and be happy with her.

Be yourself

First of all, you should always try and be yourself, even if it sounds hard or impossible. Girls don't like fake guys and in general, being fake is something that girls can sniff a mile away. Think about it: Would you date someone who is fake and doesn't even have the gut of being herself? I don't think so!

Don't hurry up and be sensitive

We guys always like to speed up things and get over with the cheesy moments, but even if you don't like them that much, they are necessary. I'm not saying you should get a band and sing her a song when she gets out of the mall, but do try and be sensitive. And by that I also mean that you cannot afford to make any lame sex jokes with her. If you make these jokes, you will just lure her away from you and end up lonely.

Communication is vital

Make sure you talk to her, but don't try to ask lame questions that bore her. Try and be original, show her that you are really interested into her, but don't overdo it so she may think you're obsessed with her or something. Be reasonable, sound interesting and do it all within the limits of your personality and honesty. Speak only as much as you think you can handle. It's really bad to get caught up in a lie later on. Your voice needs to make her feel safe when sharing certain things to you and that's why you should always reassure this way.

Dress nicely

The way you dress is also very important, because girls do really care about how their boyfriend looks. You don't want to look under dressed for instance when you go out with her, while she's wearing some really nice clothes. Some girls won't say this matters to them, but it does, believe me.

Smile and make her laugh

is one of the most important things for them when looking for a guy. Practically, every girl out there loves to have a guy to make her laugh when she's sad and keep her hopes high when she cannot manage on her own.

Compliment her whenever you can

Last but not least, be bold sometimes and always compliment her when you should. Women loves to be appreciated and have their efforts matter for someone and that is why you should consider this advice very much.

In the end, by combining all of these tips together, you can easily date any girl you like. And believe me, when you'll realize you can pull this off like a pro, you'll become even more confident in your chances of dating beautiful and smoking hot girls!

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Women: Loving Yourself Is About More Than Looks

Women loving themselves is very important. Although self-love is very important for a woman's happiness, some women have trouble in that area of life. Many women are not satisfied with their bodies, and they worry a great deal about how other people see them. Before women can be fully loved by others, they must first learn to love themselves.

What does it mean to love yourself? Some people may think that it means loving the way their bodies look. If this were the case, most women would not love themselves. Loving yourself is more than just loving the way you look. Women should look deeper inside themselves instead of focusing strictly on the outside of their bodies. It is what's on the inside that counts the most.

Women should take a moment to forget about all the things they hate about themselves. They should quit worrying about the extra pounds they may be carrying or the freckles they may have on their faces. Now, it's time to focus and take a deep breath. Women should take this time to think about all of the things that they love about themselves other than physical traits. Maybe they love the fact that they are kind to others.

Perhaps they have a few special qualities, such as being great with children or helping others. These are the things that matter the most. Once women discover what they love about themselves, they should put those things into action by participating in activities that make them happy, such as joining a choir or signing up to help the needy people in the community. Once women start enjoying life, others will notice that they are happier. When women are happy with themselves, it is likely that others will enjoy their company more.

Now that we have focused on the inside of the body, let's focus on the outside. Yes, earlier we talked about love being more than just what's on the outside, but now that we have learned the ways for women to love who they are on the inside, we need to address the outside as well.

This does not mean that women need to worry about all of their flaws, go on crash diets or get plastic surgery. This just means that women should do special things for themselves in order to make themselves feel better. Regular exercise can make a big difference in the lives of women. Not only will it make them healthier, but they will feel better both physically and emotionally. It is a great stress reliever as well. Yoga is a great exercise option that can help women become more in touch with themselves.

A little bit of pampering is great for women. Taking the extra time to fix their hair or makeup can make a real difference in the way they feel about themselves. Women do not have to wear makeup and fix their hair to be pretty or love themselves, but it can help to make them feel more confident. A nice massage from time to time is great as well. This can help women to relax and unwind at the end of a stressful day. Remember women, loving yourself is easier when you are not too stressed.

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Define Anxiety

To Define Anxiety can be difficult as there are many different forms. The dictionary definition is that Anxiety is "A state of uneasiness and apprehension". However it can depend on your circumstance as to why it is that you are feeling uneasy or nervous. For example if you are feeling as if you are constantly on edge, you could be considered to have "Generalized Anxiety Disorder", or if you have a concert coming up and you are nervous about playing you could be considered to have "performance anxiety". There can even be positive examples of anxiety, such as when you want to impress someone with maybe your cooking or another particular skill, you could be perceived as being "anxious to impress".

It is really down to the person to define anxiety and which it is that they have, and what is causing these feelings before they can look to ways to treat it.

Anxiety is in reality a very useful tool that your brain uses to keep you alive. For example if you didn't worry or become anxious about whether or not there was enough food to last the winter as a caveman/woman then you may have not survived, if you didn't worry about the way that Lion was looking at you earlier, then again you may not have lasted very long in the wild. It is an in-built system that helps keep us alive. Unfortunately our surroundings have changed drastically since the times of cavemen and women, but our brains have not. This means that we still use the same thought processes as then, but in a totally different environment.

Let's take that example of seeing a lion for example. Now when you were a caveman/woman, you would have seen the lion and your flight or fight response would kick in. This would help you to either run away as fast as possible, or it would help you to stand and defend yourself. Typical feelings you would associate with this could include; body temperature increase, chest tightness, dizziness, racing heart, sweating, do any of these sound familiar? they are the exact same feelings you get when you leave Wal-Mart and think that your car has been stolen, or when you are in a lift full of people and it stops momentarily. Your body doesn't know the difference between these events and so it treats them all the same. It's just trying to protect you.

Now that we have had a look at how some people Define Anxiety, let's see what can be done about it.

There are a few ways in which your anxiety can be dealt with, one of which is medication. Certain drugs are available to decrease your feelings of anxiety and put you more at ease. These are known as Beta Blockers, they are a fairly strong form of medication, and once a dose has started, you cannot just stop taking them so ensure you speak thoroughly with your GP before taking these.

Another way of dealing with anxiety is relaxation techniques or meditation. Once you have managed to define your anxiety, you can start to work on positive mental images of yourself dealing in a particular situation which would have at one time made you feel anxious. You can then begin to imagine yourself feeling more and more relaxed about this situation until you feel that you can deal with it more comfortably.

Decreasing caffeine can also be a good way of lessening anxiety as it is well known that coffee or other stimulants encourage your fight or flight response to kick in, and as we read earlier that can sometimes be a bad thing.

Group therapy can sometimes help if you have defined your anxiety as being caused by being around lots of people. Sometimes talking to people that have had the same experiences as you and are currently learning to deal with the problem can help you to overcome it yourself.

Speaking to your GP may be the best first option as they may well be able to help you Define Anxiety a little better and also steer you in the right direction for appropriate help.

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How to Stop Feelings of Unworthiness From Sabotaging Your Dreams

I seek strength, not to be greater than another, but to fight my greatest enemy, the doubts within myself. ~P.D. Cast

Of all the elements that form the comfort zone, unworthiness is without question the most insidious.

Unworthiness is that shadowy deep-seated belief that creeps into our minds and tells us we are undeserving and not good enough, inadequate and fundamentally flawed. Unworthiness serves as a shield to insulate us from risk, chance and the unknown.

Some of us may already be aware of certain limiting and negative beliefs we have about ourselves. These we can learn to heal and change. The real problem goes deeper... it's the unconscious self-doubt and unworthy feelings we accept about ourselves.

The unworthiness mantra is "Don't try it, don't even think about it."

Without realizing it, we allow unworthiness to sabotage us in a hundred different ways, using endless justifications to keep from reaching for our dreams. For the sake of shielding ourselves from even the remote possibility of having to face our own fundamental inadequacy... we will do whatever it takes to just not think about it.

We repeatedly second guess our choices; falling into endless mental reruns picking apart what we could or should have done differently; over time finding it harder and harder to make definitive decisions that will enable us to move forward.
We avoid testing (or exposing) ourselves by allowing days, weeks and years to go by as we focus on the daily minutia of life and tell ourselves we'll get to the big important stuff as soon as we're 'caught up' or when the 'time is right.'
We use our responsibilities, especially to others, as shields to prevent ourselves from trying something new.

While there's a lot to be said for gratitude, there is a BIG difference between appreciating all the good things and people in your life and choosing to settle for less because you don't believe you deserve or are capable of more.

A few months ago I received a heartbreaking note from a reader who wanted to share with me why she had just unsubscribed from IGG. She went on to explain that while she enjoyed the articles and found them inspiring they also depressed her because she found herself focusing on all that she could never have or be in her life. "A lot of people have it worse than me, so I just need to stop dreaming and be grateful for what I have now."

How to Resolve Feelings of Unworthiness

Be willing to challenge beliefs about yourself: Begin by exploring the 'why' behind negative self talk. Make a positive statement about yourself such as I am a loving person or I deserve to achieve my dream of (fill in the blank). Then focus on any negative or contradictory thoughts that pop into your mind about your declaration. A personal journal is a great tool for this exercise. The more specific you can be with your statement, the greater the likelihood you'll be able to uncover those sneaky unworthy feelings.

One step at a time: Once you begin to identify unworthy thoughts or triggers you can start gently stretching the limits of your comfort zone. Be willing to try different strategies and don't be discouraged if you have to keep at it for awhile. These feelings of unworthiness have likely been with you for decades, so be kind to yourself, celebrate small victories, and be patiently persistent.

Let go of the past: For some reason, at some point in your life you came to the conclusion that you were lacking. Maybe you were bullied as a kid, or maybe you made a mistake... maybe it was a real whopper of a mistake and now you're stuck mentally rerunning the experience and what you could or should have done differently. It's time to let it go. The longer this has been going on the tougher it will be to clear it from your mind, but meaningful change always begins with a decision and in this case it's up to you to choose not to give those thoughts the energy they require to remain an active part of your life.

Risk change: The thing about unworthiness is over time it becomes a comfortable companion and it is awfully tempting to stay with what's known rather than risk the discomfort of change, rejection or even failure. Focus on your dreams and find a purpose that is important enough to motivate you to muster the strength and courage to step into the unknown and be free of what's holding you back.

Be willing to ask for help: Sometimes feelings of unworthiness stem from a major life change or a traumatic event. As valuable as self-directed personal growth exercises can be, it's important to understand that asking for help is not a weakness. Even the most courageous and successful people from time to time need a helping hand to move forward.

Sometimes the space between where you are and where you want to be can feel like a massive distance, but the truth is even the most self-confident among us will experience doubt from time to time. We may not be able to completely avoid it, but we can become more resilient by developing a strategy that enables us to effectively conquer feelings of self-doubt and unworthiness. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

Turn Fear Into Love

If you look around you, there are fear messages all around you. The news is saturated with fear messages and most conversations tend to revolve around some form of fear. With fear being in the main stream, it can be challenging and you can even get weary if you're trying to hold the light when no one else seems to be doing that around you.

I get it. I've seen angels since I was a child. I read people's energies and know things about them that they may never understand. I've brought bugs back to life when they were squooshed and it seemed there was no hope for them with my healing gift. I've fought for my right to just feel what I feel without being told I'm crazy or too sensitive and in the process of it all I have lost myself many times, fallen and scraped my knees more times than I can count, lived on the streets, I have been beaten and still I wondered why no one else felt the things that I did deep in my soul.

One word. FEAR.

Everyone is emotionally sensitive. Everyone has spiritual gifts. Everyone can tap into their inner wisdom, the light, God, Infinite Spirit and be in the flow of manifesting what they desire. Many have lost their way.

They've been told to be a certain way. Boys have been told not to cry, to tough it out and macho up. Girls have been told "Shhhh... that's not very lady like" and this still happens because I see it every day. Over the years people have been placed into categories, held up to expectations by others, told they were bad, given tools for war rather than tools for peace and love and now we live in a world where people are struggling to feel love, struggling to feel happy and struggling to get through tough times.

So let's bring in some light. You may identify with some part of this. I wanted to be transparent because there is a gift in my rich past experience and I know that. I would be selfish not to share it with you so I share it with the intention that it spark some light within you.

How to turn fear into love.

First of all you must be willing to buck the crowd at times. Not everyone is going to get the light right away. Some may go away and others may take a while to come around. It's not about them. It's about YOU claiming your right to light and to living your life from that place. That means getting up and sending light to the people in your home, at work, at the store and doing everything you do in the light.

Create a practice that will help you tune into more love and light in your heart. Meditate, journal, read spiritual books, join a spiritual group, hire a mentor who can hold the space for you and practice saturating yourself in lighter thought forms, lighter feelings, lighter perceptions. The heavier stuff will start to fall away.

Face the fears about being in the light and thinking you'll be rejected. When you release rejection and the fears around BEING YOU for all that you are then a cellular change begins to take place. Energetically you begin to shift into a different way of being. You'll naturally be in harmony with the world around you and resistance, challenges and obstacles will start to disappear.

You have a right to be the light. In fact it is your spiritual responsibility to everyone on this planet. Fear has only created pain, separation and war. Only love and light will remove fear from your life.

You owe it to yourself, your family and the rest of the world to finally drop your story, drop the fear, drop the pain, drop the drama and claim today that you will begin to write a new story that will fulfill you, heal you, nurture you, support you and in turn spread to those around you.

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Forgiveness And The Art Of Letting Go

I once heard a quote from a client of mine that hit a deep chord within me. "Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned." I believe it was Buddha that said this. It was at this point I began to realize the pain I was causing myself by holding onto past anger. For all I knew, these people didn't even know I was angry at them, and most likely didn't care. So what was the point, and how do I get rid of it? It took a very long time, and a lot of soul-searching but here is what I came up with.

Hanging onto any emotion begins to wear away at us and break us down physically, emotionally, and mentally. I see it in my practise every day. Anger is like a cancer eating away at us until we are but a shell of what we once were. This was happening to me and I was aware of it. It affected how I felt, my relationship, my interactions with others, and my work. I didn't recognize myself anymore, and knew I had to make a change. It was here that felt I had hit a brick wall, and then it came to me. Forgiveness.

Forgiveness is the key to letting go. Many believe that forgiveness means that they condone what has been done to them, this is not the case at all. Think of it this way, forgiveness is not done for someone else but for yourself. It means freedom, salvation. With this thought process in mind, it makes it a little easier to swallow. Forgiveness of ones self is hardest of all. We tell ourselves we should have known better, I could have helped, I would have done things differently. What we tend to forget is that we are all human and all make mistakes. Be kind to yourself, and allow yourself to make mistakes, for it is from these mistakes that growth happens.

Holding onto the past prevents us from growing and moving forward. It can create fear and worry when it comes to meeting new people or new situations. It also prevents us from achieving our goals like being promoted, or finding that perfect relationship, or even being present. So ask yourself, what is it you are holding on to, and what is needed to let it go?

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The Blessedness of the Responsible Life

"Significance and fulfilment are not found amongst those who spectate, but [amongst] those who intentionally involve themselves in the process of existence."
~Philip Baker

Who are the happiest of people? Who are those who have the least amount of inner conflict? Who amongst humanity can truly say they have joy in abundance? Who may we say wants these aforementioned qualities of life?

The rest of the article is devoted to answering these questions as we gravitate toward the concept that when we live with intentionality of purpose we derive joy and vice versa.

THE COHERENCE OF JOY AND PURPOSE

When a person is at joy within themselves there is a near and dear purpose throbbing from within them. And when a purpose is found in life, which gives life all its meaning, there is great joy.

Joy and purpose go together.

This, of course, is a win/win reality for the person who has purpose, or who has joy. With one they have the other. And without one they are without the other. When we are without joy or purpose - meaning we lack purpose or joy - we lose our peace, and our inner conflict purges from within us affecting our external world. This is manifest by behavioural anxiety - the inner torment that ripples outward and affects our relationships. But when we have purpose and resulting joy (or the other way around) we have access to an inner satisfaction we call contentedness. When we are content, all the more do our relationships go better.

THE BENEFACTORS OF HAPPINESS, PEACE, AND THE ABUNDANT LIFE

I've been rhetorical in posing the four questions above. Those who are happiest in life have significant purpose. These are the fulfilled, for their intentionality drives them with meaning - especially if the meaning is philanthropic. These sorts of people are not easily burned-out. Their flame burns brightly within. Where there is a purpose we can fall in love with it is a joy to be alive.

The purposeful, even though they may contend with much conflict, actually have very little inner conflict. Their vision carries them forward beyond the angst resounding in their circumstances. They exist in peace and they provide peace for others.

If joy and purpose cohere, then so do peace and joy, for the person full of peace can see nothing but joy.

It's too easy to say everyone wants happiness, peace, and joy; the truth is most people apparently don't. They are too busy blaming external factors for their lack of happiness, peace, and joy. And so we get to the crux of the matter: the acceptance of responsibility.

The person who truly wants happiness, peace, and joy will soon discover that God has given humankind everything it needs to experience these. All we must do is accept our responsibilities by aligning ourselves with truths everywhere.

Achieving happiness, peace, and joy is easy. All we need to do is take responsibility for our lives and take less (or no) responsibility for others' lives. When we live the responsible life, we experience a very great personal power - the blessing of God.

Blessed are the responsible - those who maturely accept what they should do and then do it.

Steve Wickham is a Registered Safety Practitioner and he holds Degrees in Science, Divinity, and Counselling. Steve writes at: epitemnein-epitomic.blogspot.com.au and tribework.blogspot.com.au. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

Success Or Failure: Do You Feel Like a Failure?

Do you feel like a failure?

Have you ever felt like you were not good enough no matter what you tried to do or how many times you tried to do it? Have you ever felt like no matter how much better you get at doing something, there's always someone else who's there to tell you that you could have done it better?

Please understand I am a firm believer in continually striving to do better. However, it is never a pleasant experience for me when someone else points out my faults regardless of how well-meaning their intentions can be.

Even as a child it was clear to me what failure looked like, and those who failed shamefully had to tolerate the heckling and laughter of others at their expense. This crude treatment was less than encouraging.

When I lost custody of my children, I kept to myself as much as possible. I didn't want to be reminded repeatedly of what a failure as a mother I'd become. The event caused me to think of myself as a failure, a feeling I bore from the judgment of others. It changed my life.

Strangely enough, I knew the critics were basing their opinion of me as a mother on the outcome of the custody battle rather than how I performed as a mother. I don't know what it is about us humans, but we seem to have to look for validation of ourselves from another human. Though, in reality that's just our perception.

When considering a supposed failure, have you ever wondered...

Did I make a positive difference in this scenario? Do I know what that difference is?

Did I somehow contribute to this failure?

What exactly IS the failure? What would success look like in this particular situation?

Is failure the beginning of success? Would I even recognize success without failure and if so, then do I need to have experienced failure in order to have success?

Am I really a failure, or am I a success because of my failure?

So, what is success? What does it mean to you? What does that word look like to you in your world? Can you become a failure without knowing what it is to be successful?

This is what I have come to learn:

First of all, failure is not a person! Failure is recognized as an unsuccessful act, non-performance, insufficiency, deterioration, or condition of something expected. Inadequately "doing" something does not automatically turn you into "becoming" something. After all, who were you moments BEFORE you made the attempt to do the thing that failed?

When going through the feelings of failure, why do you automatically seem to question who we are?

What is the truth? Do we really know? Or do we truly know yet allow others to talk us out of what we know?

You might wonder where I am going with this train of thought. I am leading up to all the negative self-talk, monkey-mind, voices in our head, chatter, or whatever we choose to call it that tells us something different than what we feel.

It makes me wonder if I didn't really know truth all along and didn't question it until people gave me a reason to do so. Have you ever done something you really wanted to do and then felt badly about it only because someone else told you that you were bad for doing it?

It's got to do with that word failure.

So, maybe failure is a necessary thing after all. And maybe if we recognize it as just another part of life we could talk about it in a more positive connotation, and keep it in a perspective of a behavioral trait rather than a label we should stick on ourselves or someone else.

My hope is for you to look at failure as a way to reach your full potential so that you can be all you were meant to be and reject any notion of using the word to identify a person, particularly YOU!

Mary's 20 years of experience in dealing with trauma dedicated her to become one of the leading experts in transforming pain to pleasure in women's lives. Mary is a loving mom and after the loss of custody of her own children, has created a company that stands as the voice for mothers who have lost custody of their children. Grab a copy of her free eBook, "8 Critical Steps to Transforming Your Life after Losing Custody!" at my website, marydirksen.com. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

What's in Your Pie Chart?

So school is about to start - and you might be thinking of getting things in order. September is always the time of year we get to evaluate where we've been so far this year and how we want to end our year. After the summer of letting some areas of your life get off track you may want to start paying attention again. You might want to start measuring things again. How about how you spend your time, energy and focus?

I have had several of my clients reviewing just that. What are your priorities? Is it work, meetings or volunteering more than you'd really like to? Don't get me wrong making contributions to community or organizations you belong to is a wonderful thing to do. But you need to ask yourself - is the time you are spending in these areas eroding or enhancing the balance in what you want to have in your life? Do you go to meetings rather than taking time for fitness, making healthy meals or closing your eyes for 10-20 minutes when you come home from work? If you aren't doing any of these latter things than you must learn to take things off your plate. Stop saying yes to everything and start saying yes to you 1st.

I have seen so many struggle with their health and weight simply because they are doing way too much. So that's why I am recommending a way to look at important categories in your life by creating a Pie Chart - a visible representation of where you spend most of your time and effort on a daily basis. Many are surprised, even shocked to discover that they may only eke out 2-5% for themselves. Could that be your story, too?

Here are 3 Simple Tips on Creating Your Pie Chart To Reflect What You Truly Want:

Tip #1 Get out of vagueness - Being vague about important things in your life can be a killer. There's no clarity or sense of direction living this way. If you do, you most likely don't have much of an idea as to where you are at all. This strategy (or lack of) can be compared to not writing down what you eat when you want to lose weight or keep your weight in check. You are not conscious of what is really happening. In order to become more aware and make necessary changes you must have some form of measurement. Remember you can't change what you don't measure. What do you spend your time, focus and energy on during your day?

Tip #2 Making choices - After you've identified what's in your Pie Chart - it's time to determine where you'd like to spend more time and focus and where you'd like to spend less. Perhaps you don't want to be in work mode 24/7. Or how about reducing some of your PTA activities.

Again, only if these activities are cutting into some of your own self caring personal time do you want to make different choices - modify a little. If you are not sleeping well, eating on the run (most of the time) or becoming more irritable with loved ones it's time to make some changes re-vamp your Pie Chart.

Tip #3 Have Fun - Yes, even determining what is important can be a fun, and certainly revealing assignment. You can have fun creating a new Pie Chart for Your Life. Suspend reality for a moment and think what could be possible in your future. Could you carve some time for date night with your spouse more often, have a massage 2x/mo or go to the theater to see a play every 3 months or so.

Plan for a trip to a place you've always wanted to go to. Whatever you choose know that it will take some time to integrate less of the "have-to's" and more of the "want to's" into your life. Have fun with this process.

(c) Monika Klein

Monika Klein, BS, CN. is an award winning clinical nutritionist and weight loss expert. Monika is the "Compassionate and Practical Nutrition and Lifestyle Coach." Her company, Coaching For Health, offers life transforming weight loss and wellness programs, classes and products throughout the world. To learn more about Monika's services and programs, visit coachingforhealth.com. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

Being A Surprisingly Romantic Bachelor, Does It Really Matter?

Whether you're single or together with your sweetheart, what we'd be talking about today would be rather focused on helping guys like you make the most out of relationships. Though, life has a plethora of aspects to mention, it's always love that matters the most for it gives meaning out of everyone's lives - which is enough reason why learning to keep your girl hooked up to you is a must. So, if you are on the same boat here with the purpose of knowing how to make your girl happy, stay faithful and tend to give you what every man would want from his lady, you will need to take action for the stuff that are considered to be the fundamentals.

The first key to a successful relationship is to be a man of romance - full of surprises. There are guys who practice it during early parts of their relationships, but stop doing so in the long run. On another note, there are others who never really get the point of it and would rather not do anything at all, which slowly dries out their women out of boredom. Think about it; what's the point of dating a girl without even having the thoughtfulness that would make her filled up with joy? Metaphorically speaking, women are just as fragile as plants: keep them watered for vitality - keeping them lively - for their own survival.

Also, you don't really have to break the bank in surprising your beloved woman. Just remember to always be consistent with it. To help you with that, there's one thing that you need to bear in mind at all times: Make a weekly reminder within your e-mail account or with your handheld phone. Ever week should have at least one act of thoughtful romance for your girl and don't overdo. Otherwise, the feeling of surprise on her end won't be there anymore since it has become a routine. Just like using up skills in an RPG game, give some cool down time before you execute the next move. Another thing you should know is that you should not make an obvious pattern. For instance, don't always do it every Friday or any certain day every week - make things random and that will make her excited all the time.

Some wonderful ideas for romantic acts are actually the simplest ones. A good example would be to lead throughout a dark hall where there's actually a candle-light table setting on an end for you two to dine. Another one would be to slip a note inside her office desk before she gets to the office, telling her to look back where she can sight a bouquet of flowers by the window pane. It can be anything really and for a quick source of simply marvellous acts for true romanticism, you can do a Google search.

As soon as now, start making plans on how to surprise your girl. You only live once and so does your girl, which means you have to take advantage of every chance to make your girl the happiest she can ever be.

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Your Self-Concept and Subconscious

There are many people who do not understand themselves as well as what they are capable of doing and achieving. This is commonly referred to as self-concept. Self-conceptualization involves understanding as well as accepting oneself as well as ones abilities. This is a very important concept since it dictates the way your subconscious mind works at all time with aim of fulfilling your self-concept. This will in turn dictate whether or not you achieve all that you dream of as well as become the person you want to be.

It is very difficult to do something that does not go hand in hand with your self-concept. Trying this will always prove to be useless. If you cannot program your mind to achieving a certain status then as much as you try to achieve the same status you will never be able to make it. Instead you will end up sinking into the unknown. The most obvious example is a student who does not believe that he can score straight As. With such a mentality, however much such a student tries, he will never be able to score the As that he wishes so much to score. Challenging your self-concept is almost impossible hence it is important to try to change it instead of attempting to challenge it.

In the process of upgrading your own self-concept, automatically your subconscious mind will change your every aspect of thinking in order to fulfill that particular self-concept. It is therefore up to you to change your self-concept and see your subconscious adjust accordingly. It would be a mistake trying to change people by making their negative side known to them. You are better off trying to change that particular person by letting him know just how you want him to be. The same applies to self-concept and subconscious. For example it is better to tell a person that he is brilliant and the characters he portrays do not belong to a person with his capabilities. This person will automatically try to match the self-concept that you have formed in his mind. It is also important that you do not allow yourself or even others to call you names that in one way or the other suppress your abilities as well as strengths.

Such names will only end up pulling you down and suppressing your abilities to achieve big thing and the kind of status that you want to achieve. You instead need to stay around people who in a way believe in you and are always motivating as well as influencing you into doing positive things that you never used to like doing before. It is such people that will help you soar to greater heights in your life as well as make all the difference in your life.

Undermining your self-concept is the worst thing that you will ever do to yourself. This will lead you to the worst depths of life where you will be seen as a non-achiever not because of anyone else but yourself. You need to ensure that you use your self-concept to your advantage at all times for you to become the kind of person that you as well as the society want you to be.

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Imperfect Sinner

'The integrity of the upright will guide them' (Proverbs 11:3)

Are you good at berating and generally beating yourself up? Or do you leave it to others to chastise and point out your failings? As a young woman I was very confident and I believe fairly infallible. It isn't that I was arrogant, just that my parenting instilled a healthy and positive self-esteem, and I didn't think I was particularly imperfect. I was aware from going to Sunday school and church that man was born in sin, and that we needed to be aware of our sinful nature. I learned about the seven deadly sins, which are lust, gluttony, greed, laziness, wrath, envy and pride, and was aware that I needed to avoid these things. Essentially however, I did not feel I needed to criticise my own behaviour or that I regularly needed to identify my faults and punish myself accordingly.

As I grew to adulthood and had differing emotional experiences, such as losing my first job or being ignored by some young man who I liked, I learned emotional pain and how to deal with rejection. One of the main reasons someone will blame themselves or believe they are at fault is if they are emotionally scarred. They may then beat themselves up in a variety of ways. For instance they may do something extreme like becoming a lesbian or a nun if the object of their affection does not reciprocate their affections. Fortunately I took a more balanced approach and instead of beating myself believed that it was his bad luck; and simply moved on to the many other young men who were expressing an interest in dating me.

Not everyone takes things on the chin in the same way, and some may look for reasons to chastise themselves or believe that they have done something for which they should be penalised or punished. Inevitably this is not the case and good thinking is the better way forward rather than finding fault with yourself. This is a healthy way of looking at things however our life experiences are such that the attitude of siblings and partners, often encourage us to believe the worst of ourselves. For example you're so lazy couldn't you have done that for me or pointing out what they think is some other deficiency in your character.

I remember quite vividly the first time that someone indicated that they thought I was pretentious and not a very genuine person. I was mildly shocked that I was presenting in this way and took a step back to re-check my personality. It is, I believe always good to listen to fault finders; if only so that you can refute their views. Fault finders come in all sizes, shapes and ages, and range from ordinary people through to prominent officials. Sometimes you can be so caught up in your own importance that you fail to recognise your own imperfections. Having assessed this implied deficiency in my character I am pleased to say that it was the observer's perception that was at fault.

A final thought is that we are all imperfect and may have several character traits which other people are less than pleased with. If that is in fact the case some religious insight might prove useful in providing a basis or foundation for understanding our imperfections. We ultimately have to gain some understanding of our own characters and often use our internal barometer to identify the right and wrong of a situation. Additionally we are socialised into knowing the expectations of society; and have an understanding that we would be penalised if we did something wrong. I believe it's better to roll with the punches rather than metaphorically giving ourselves a severe thrashing.

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Gratitude, How You Can Use It to Transform Your Entire Life

If you're like most people, you feel grateful when something good happens - like when you get a promotion at work, or when the entire family is together at the Thanksgiving dinner table.

But that's not good enough.

Sadly, most of us tend to see the negatives in life, rather than being grateful for things on a daily basis. Think about the last time something bad or frustrating happened. How did you handle it? Were you upset, but still grateful for the good things in your life - or were you thrown into a sea of negativity and convinced your entire life is terrible?

You don't have to live a life that's chock full of anger, resentment, disappointment, frustration, and boredom. But the key to changing things is to use gratitude in a more productive way.

How do you do that?

You have to choose how you want to live. If you decide you're going to make gratitude a bigger part of your daily life, you need to choose to work at it. If you don't take a proactive approach, the "little things" will get the best of you. You'll end up being an emotional ping-pong ball!

If you're finding it difficult to incorporate gratitude into your routine, do these 2 things:

1. Focus on positive statements.

Instead of dwelling on the negative, say positive things like, "Today, I choose to be grateful for ___." Say it out loud if you have to! Pick out a dozen little reasons to be grateful or one giant reason. No matter what you're talking about, just make sure you genuinely feel grateful while you're making these statements.

2. Search for gratitude in every experience.

This can be challenging - especially when you're in the middle of a bad situation. However, it's not impossible. Remember, there are positives and negatives to every situation. If you search for and recognize the positives in each situation, you'll feel much better about all of them.

The key to making these techniques work is to consciously remember you DO have choices. You don't have to let life lead you around by the nose. You might have to work harder at being grateful at first, but over time, you'll see the change it creates. You'll have a more positive view to the world and, as a result, you'll discover others approach you in a more positive way. In the end, you'll see more and more positive things start happening to you.

But it all starts with turning your attitude around!

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3 Surefire Ways To Get Instant Self Confidence

Have you ever had someone say, "just be confident!" What the hell does that mean? Do I go to Walmart and buy it? If you're reading this article, you're probably like me, and you've read the books, listened to the audios, and gone to the seminars. When you've done all that as long as I have, you learn a thing or two. If you want 3 surefire ways to get self confidence, read on all the way to the end of this article so you'll have the tools needed to automatically equip yourself.

1.) Practice getting out of your comfort zone daily.

We as humans are so stuck in our ways and we condemn people who are outside of the realm of what we feel should be normal. You are in a tough spot right now... I know... I've been there. Being stuck in a rut is no joke. What we don't realize about the rut is that it is a rut of our own making, through the routines and habit we've perpetuated on a daily basis. One way to get an instant rush of confidence is to make it a practice to do something different everyday. Drive down a different street on your way home, try a new restaurant, say hello to the next five people you walk by, take a class, get an expensive outfit if you don't do that often. Take small steps and do different little things so you can practice staying at the edge of your comfort zone. Do this consistently for ninety days and I guarantee you will feel a change in you spirit.

2.) Anything worth doing is worth doing bad at first.

Many of us won't try anything new, because we are scared to make a mistake, not realizing that the only way to gain confidence in anything is to do it over and over again. It is through experience that we learn best.

Three key ingredients help us to learn at maximum capacity:

Education, repetition and application.

We must learn from those who have the skill we want, go through the lessons over and over again because repetition is the mother of skill, and we must take action on what we learn, knowing that its going to be a bit clumsy at first, but as we continue to take action over and over again, we become acclaimated to the process and things get better. You must persist like most baby's do when they are learning to walk. What kind of parent would I be if I told my 3 year old, stop trying to walk, you'll only get hurt! My son had to get hurt a little while learning to walk until he had enough experience and acclamation to do it perfectly.

3.) Listen to positive messages everyday.

Listening to CD's, reading self help books, and watching videos for at least an hour everyday is most important on my agenda. Listening to positive messages everyday will interrupt the story that you tell yourself on a daily basis. When I am feeling down, I pop in a Zig Ziglar CD, watch a Les Brown video, or listen to Jim Rohn talk about how to change my philosophy - the way I think. Brian Tracy says to repeat to myself daily "I love myself!" I am a witness, the more you say it, the more confidence builds!

There you have it. I have given you 3 instant surefire ways to get self confidence. To find out how to get self confidence in even more ways, click here to visit my website: personaldevelopmentlifestyle.com. Providing useful self development, self empowerment and self esteem tips and reviews online.

Why Do Some People Leave a Mark in Our Lives?

Some people leave our lives and we do not even feel their departure while others only become acknowledged briefly, yet they leave a huge mark upon us. It's not with the quantity of time that we spend with them or the number of times we meet, but perhaps you'd meet someone only once and they leave a mark on you.

Words are the strongest weapon because a simple word can make you happy, a small compliment or a little bit of inspiration is what does all the magic. It's not that the people who leave a mark on you know a lot, but rather all they do is speak frankly, open their minds and hearts and allow you to feel the warmth of their heart before anything else. It is never the amount of rude knowledge that leaves a mark on you, although sometimes knowledge itself is the most influential aspect of any person.

Most of the time, knowledge works like magic, and magic in definition - of course, aside from any mythological though and in pure philosophy - is merely understanding of methods and tools from the shallowest point to the deepest one. With that being said, it's initial that you understand that merely the psychological knowledge is what makes someone so understanding of different topics as people with more psychological knowledge will tend to read the people they meet without too much effort and they would not be doing that knowingly, but rather their subconscious works on that matter on its own.

While some people leave a positive mark on our life, others tend to leave pain. But either situation should be utilized. If you are left with negative feelings towards someone because they hurt you, whether it was related to your personal or professional life, you should have deeper understanding of the situation and just because you might have gotten fired or dumped or treated in a bad way by someone, it does not mean that life stops there and then.

And when someone influences you in a good way, you should reach an understanding of exactly what they have done and instead of just living happily with what they have done, you should learn how to do the exact same thing, of course, without setting a mental barrier that you have to do it in the exact same way. A motivational speech does not require the same personality, but change is usually good and while you might not have the powerful ability of giving out a speech to motivate someone to do something in order to get one step closer to their goal, you still remain influential.

You should not ask why this person or that set a mark in your life but you should ask yourself how; how to get rid of the bad mark that hurts your reputation or how to keep that mark alive. It's of the utmost importance that you do not simply let things go when they are powerful but come to an understanding of every single situation you are appointed to.

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Did You Quit

I've just created a new saying "If it Doesn't Fit You Must Have Quit!" And it's so true - we all do it - we quit on ourselves. It can be devastating, depressing and cause a related lack of confidence about ever being able to work on your goal again.

So why do we Quit and what can we do about it?

Here are your 6 Reasons and their Solutions:

#1 Not fully committed to ourselves. Whether it's your program or whatever you say you want if you are not on board and totally "All-In" you will sit on the fence and not move forward.

The Solution: Committing to yourself starts with believing you are worth it. If you don't have that belief you need to hire it. Get support from a professional who will provide you with all the belief you need until you have it on your own.

#2 Distractions. Other things take priority which is often a huge issue for women. You know the re-model, the kids, housecleaning, caring for everyone else (and not yourself).

The Solution: Just say no to distractions. Start your day with pen in hand and write down your 5 priorities - nothing else matters until you get these done. Be laser focused. It's the same with bigger goals, too. If you want to lose weight and be healthy then the next time the cheesecake floats past you at your family dinner let it pass you by. On a good program you should feel nourished and balanced enough to forego any of these environmental triggers. Make yourself and your goals a priority. Unless you have small children everyone else can take care of themselves - really, they can.

#3 Lose Faith. You are full of self doubt. You wonder "Will this really work? Is it working? Will it ever work? Second guessing by not trusting yourself or who you're working with is very self sabotaging.

The Solution: A funny thing about health and wellness is it doesn't come from out of the blue. Sure when you're young it doesn't require much effort to stay healthy and lean. But as you get older more effort is required. So if you take the necessary steps to lose weight and/or stay healthy by eating well, having 3 meals a day, eating fresh fruits and vegetables, exercising - you will get the results - there is no doubt.

#4 Wanting a Quick Fix. Sometimes the problem with healthy weight loss is it takes longer than you'd like in order to see results. There may be deep complex issues going on whether biochemical or behavioral.

The Solution: There is no such thing as a Quick Fix. Even though I call one of my Weight Loss Programs Quick Fix it isn't really it's very healthy but it's a catchy name - don't you think? Losing 10 lbs over 2 days is only temporary and the more you engage in this kind of fad the more damage you will do to your body. Your body's resilient but you can not continually abuse it without consequences. Your body most likely will stop losing weight and functioning well. Do the right thing the right way - slow, gradual and supportive change is the only way to go.

#5 Bright Shiny Object Syndrome. Also called the Grass is Greener Syndrome. or "I want what she's having" the classic line from When Harry Met Sally. You start something and quit when you see something else then you try that for a short period and quit - setting up this vicious cycle.

The Solution: Decide to honor your decision and stick with it. There will always be something out there that appears better, quicker and easier. It's more tantalizing. You need to stick with your health regimen. Starting and stopping will never give you what you need and want and it's hard on both your mind and body. It will only deplete and depress you. So decide, do it, get the help you need and see your life change

#6 Listening to Everyone Else. You think you're committed but then 5 friends or family members have a better idea and offer their opinion. You end up being confused and without consulting an expert you quit.

The Solution: Stop listening to everyone and anyone. Everyone has an opinion "you should do the Belly Fat or Cookie Diet" says Aunt Shirley. Stop the confusion it will only paralyze you and you'll never get started. You may not want to tell anyone what you're doing initially. Get used to the new program you're on, work with someone who'll help you stay the course. Then let others come to you and ask YOU what YOU'RE doing and what advice YOU can offer THEM. You have now become the expert of YOU - congratulations!

(c) Monika Klein

Monika Klein, BS, CN. is an award winning clinical nutritionist and weight loss expert. Monika is the "Compassionate and Practical Nutrition and Lifestyle Coach." Her company, Coaching For Health, offers life transforming weight loss and wellness programs, classes and products throughout the world. To learn more about Monika's services and programs, visit http://www.coachingforhealth.com.

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